Would you expect.... first dance.....

[MrsNacho]

Trying to choose our first dance song, apparently ever since he was a little boy my groomzilla DP has wanted "I've Had The Time Of My Life" from dirty dancing.

However I think if we had that people will be expecting The Dance.....

So, YANBU - people will be expecting the dance when the song starts up.

YABU - no one would expect you to start twirls and lifts.

They probably would be half expecting it, but wouldn’t care if you didn’t. It’s quite a weird song to dance to if you don’t “do a dance” to it though.

If you pick the song you've gotta do the dance Get practicing those twirls

Nah. I just want a happy couple, looking all soppy and loved up staggering around the dance floor while I feel a warm glow of middle aged envy!
Let him have what he wants.
It does go on a long time so prompt bridesmaid/best man etc to join you after everyone's oohed and aahed.

Oh! It’s a bit cringe!! But I find the first dance cringy anyway.
I didn’t do one for my wedding.

My cousin played that at her wedding and then at her long time anniversary. You don't need to do the dance, just be in love with your husband. Yes, everyone was envious that they made it :0)

The lift the lift

It doesn't suit a traditional first dance, so you'll have to throw in some of the moves. Are you having bridesmaids? Get everyone involved.

If I heard that i'd definitely be anticipating that the couple would have a little something up their sleeves. It would be a bit of an anti climax to get all the way to the end and then nothing. I wouldn't care as such, but i'd maybe wonder why they'd chosen that song.

If I heard that song, I'd certainly be expecting some sort of show! If not you, could you rope in the bridesmaids to do a few moves?
Or, do you think he's going to practice in secret and spring a surprise on you?

I would def expect the lift

I think it's the law I'm afraid. If groomzilla insists, start practicing your lifts now!!

What if you had it as the last song of the night instead?

I wouldn't expect 'the dance'. Aren't big choreographed first dance routines a bit naff now? I thought that phase passed about five years ago.

The lift, but don’t expect to get it straight away. Are there any good bodies of water near you to practice in?

Well thankfully this thread and a practice at shuffling to the song has made him see sense and like a PP suggested, we are going to have it for the last song of the night.

I am so not the kind of person to do a whole dance routine and I would feel awkward AF thinking everyone was expecting one. The first dance is awkward enough!

Choreographed first dances are awful unless groomsmen and bridesmaids are also involved. I went to a wedding about ten years ago and the cringe-factor of their first dance is literally the only thing I remember about the day. Not that they were bad dancers but they were concentrating so hard on getting the moves right that they weren't focused on each other at all, so it felt really cold somehow.

I've been to a wedding where there was a choreographed first dance. It was very awkward. Felt too serious.

Bride and groom forgot the routine gave up half way and we all joined in to save their embarrassment.

We all look back on it now and see the funny side.

Personally, I would avoid any song that will put pressure on their being a certain dance to it. By all means play it whilst everyone else is up and dancing.

Got to do the dance if it's that song. I'd be excited to see it! As a guest