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Repeating the OP’s comments as a question/dig

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WomanStanleyWoman · 14/02/2022 20:14

Has anyone else noticed this odd trend lately? Posters simply repeating something the OP has already confirmed as a question - usually to make a dig (at least that’s how it comes across).

I’ve seen it on a few threads lately. There was one from an OP who thought her friends had distanced themselves because her husband had got very drunk at a party they’d hosted. Someone had replied ‘It sounds like quite an evening. Your husband got drunk?’ It was as if she’d never heard the like, and had to repeat it to check she’d read it properly. What part of ‘My husband got very drunk’ needs clarification?

On one of my own threads recently, I’d explained in the first sentence that, where I live, it’s quite common for people to leave things they don’t want on the front wall for others to take. Someone replied ‘So, you live in an area where people just take what they want off other people’s walls…’ I assume she was trying to imply I live in a terrible area, but given that I’d explained right at the start of the post that this happens a lot locally, what did she expect my response to be? ‘No, I made the whole thing up - people never take anything left outside’?

It’s happening again on the hotels thread. Someone admitted to taking toilet rolls from hotel rooms. The number of people who’ve replied ‘You take toilet rolls from hotel rooms?’ makes me despair. Where’s the ambiguity?!

The faux-disbelief of it is so annoying. It’s so superior - and it just feels like a form of troll-hunting without out-and-out accusing a poster of lying (‘Oh no, I never said you were lying; I just can’t imagine anyone doing such a thing’).

Why have people suddenly started doing this?

OP posts:
wealllovepj · 14/02/2022 20:16

Aibu is a mean place I'm afraid
People just like to antagonize.

Queeniepies · 14/02/2022 20:17

There are some very patronising, unpleasant posters on here unfortunately.

Lockdownlard · 14/02/2022 20:18

So you’ve noticed this odd trend lately where posters repeat the OP?

Lockdownlard · 14/02/2022 20:18

Sorry! Lol couldn’t resist Grin

Pixiedust1234 · 14/02/2022 20:20

I've noticed it too. I disregard the remainder of their post because they have essentially outed themselves as a twat.

JemimaTiggywinkle · 14/02/2022 20:21

This annoys me less than people not reading the OP and saying things seemingly sincerely that OP has already ruled out.

OP - what do you think about the name Bethany? I like Beth but not keen on Elizabeth.

Poster - I love Beth, what about Elizabeth!

Pixiedust1234 · 14/02/2022 20:23

BTW I forgot to bookmark your thread. Did you go back and confess to taking the cat's saucer by mistake?

WomanStanleyWoman · 14/02/2022 20:26

Well that’s also very annoying, @JemimaTiggywinkle. There was a thread a few days ago that got really annoying about the OP’s ex-MIL cutting her daughter’s hair, drastically, without her knowledge. She’d made it clear in her opening post that MIL hadn’t asked her son before doing it either, and reiterated that in several subsequent posts - but still the ‘Doesn’t her dad get a say in this?’ posts kept coming.

OP posts:
WomanStanleyWoman · 14/02/2022 20:26

@Lockdownlard

Sorry! Lol couldn’t resist Grin
Wink
OP posts:
DillDanding · 14/02/2022 20:30

Tbf, if someone told me in real life they steal toilet rolls from hotels, I would repeat it back to them with incredulity.

But apart from that, I'd agree it's unnecessary and annoying.

cuno · 14/02/2022 20:30

I'd get it if it was something so unbelievable and unheard of that you have to double take and think surely the OP made a typo so you check. But you'd have to be extremely sheltered to think that with these examples (and the ones I've seen on mumsnet myself).

cuno · 14/02/2022 20:32

Actually, I remember not long ago there was a thread where someone said they made owl noises at their colleague, and people commented "you made owl noises at your colleague?" which I think was fair to comment that in that instance!

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 14/02/2022 20:33

@WomanStanleyWoman

Has anyone else noticed this odd trend lately? Posters simply repeating something the OP has already confirmed as a question - usually to make a dig (at least that’s how it comes across).

I’ve seen it on a few threads lately. There was one from an OP who thought her friends had distanced themselves because her husband had got very drunk at a party they’d hosted. Someone had replied ‘It sounds like quite an evening. Your husband got drunk?’ It was as if she’d never heard the like, and had to repeat it to check she’d read it properly. What part of ‘My husband got very drunk’ needs clarification?

On one of my own threads recently, I’d explained in the first sentence that, where I live, it’s quite common for people to leave things they don’t want on the front wall for others to take. Someone replied ‘So, you live in an area where people just take what they want off other people’s walls…’ I assume she was trying to imply I live in a terrible area, but given that I’d explained right at the start of the post that this happens a lot locally, what did she expect my response to be? ‘No, I made the whole thing up - people never take anything left outside’?

It’s happening again on the hotels thread. Someone admitted to taking toilet rolls from hotel rooms. The number of people who’ve replied ‘You take toilet rolls from hotel rooms?’ makes me despair. Where’s the ambiguity?!

The faux-disbelief of it is so annoying. It’s so superior - and it just feels like a form of troll-hunting without out-and-out accusing a poster of lying (‘Oh no, I never said you were lying; I just can’t imagine anyone doing such a thing’).

Why have people suddenly started doing this?

I hate it when people do THIS! There's absolutely no reason to quote the whole OP just to say "I agree" or whatever at the end.

But yes I've noticed what you've mentioned too. It just sounds so patronising

Louisianagumbo · 14/02/2022 20:37

Why shouldn't people be disgusted that guests are stealing things from hotels? It might only be a toilet roll, but why can't they just take the complimentary toiletries and be happy with that? And if repeating what they said makes me sound superior to a thief, good. Because I am.

WomanStanleyWoman · 14/02/2022 20:39

But why wouldn’t you just say ‘I think that’s a shit way to behave’ or similar?

Also, I think you’re misunderstanding what I mean by ‘sounding superior’ here…

OP posts:
Averydifferentwoman · 14/02/2022 20:40

There’s so much about MN that pisses me off, I sometimes wonder why the hell I’m here Grin

HelloFrostyMorning · 14/02/2022 20:42

YANBU @WomanStanleyWoman

Also, I hate it when an OP says for example... 'I was cooking my husband some cheese on toast, and I felt queasy, and had a sudden headache. I have felt a bit ropey for days actually. I felt a bit dizzy yesterday, and was sick the day before. Been feeling a bit low for a week or so actually.....'

On EVERY thread (within the first 25 posts,) someone says ... 'why are you cooking for your husband?' Hmm

And 'you are making food for your husband? Is this the 1950s?'

ARGH! Angry Boils my piss!

And it's ALWAYS the fucking 1950s! Confused People think they're being so original and hilarious when they say that. Pathetic.

wealllovepj · 14/02/2022 21:08

The 1950's thing is so over

NeverDropYourMooncup · 14/02/2022 21:13

I hate it when people do THIS! There's absolutely no reason to quote the whole OP just to say "I agree" or whatever at the end

There is on the Android app. It doesn't let you (or in this case, me) copy part of a post so it's possible to see more easily what particular one of hundreds that have diverted off into a bunfight about something else I'm responding to.

CloudPop · 14/02/2022 21:15

@cuno

Actually, I remember not long ago there was a thread where someone said they made owl noises at their colleague, and people commented "you made owl noises at your colleague?" which I think was fair to comment that in that instance!
In that case me though / I'm sure I wasn't alone in wondering if she'd made a typo. I have never m, ever heard of anyone casually mentioning that they made owl noises at someone in the office.
cuno · 14/02/2022 21:23

@CloudPop
Yes exactly, that's what I meant, it just didn't make sense at all!

CloudPop · 14/02/2022 21:37

[quote cuno]@CloudPop
Yes exactly, that's what I meant, it just didn't make sense at all![/quote]
And if I remember correctly it never did make any more sense 😂

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