To just want to walk away from my teens for good

[Strawberry33]

Honestly at my last tether with them. Everything is a fight and an effort. They aren’t even bad kids but wow I can’t cope with the constant effort and battle every minute of the day.
I’m so tired.
Hanging on by a very thin thread.
I have a boyfriend in wales. Should I just walk away and let their dad look after them for once?

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius

I should go on Dragons’ Den with my invention - the Teenager Barrel (TM). It is a barrel, into which you out your child when they hit the teenage years - you feed them through the bunghole, and when they turn 20, you decide whether to let them out or drive in the bung.

A smaller version might be available for the Terrible Twos.

Oh my. My late dad used to say that! That's taken me back

I feel your pain OP. So many times I feel like just walking away. Ungrateful, selfish little sods.

That letter made me cry!!!

How often does their dad see them?

He needs to be spending more time with them so you get more of a break.

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius no need for a barrel when you have a perfectly good under stairs cupboard

(I feel old as I know what sdtg stands for and I know what a wolef is )

OP, many sympathies, but no, you shouldn’t leave them.
If their dad is on the scene I would see if he could step up a bit so you have a chance to balance out the teenage horrors with some time to yourself.

I have an 18 year old, a 14 year old and an 11 year old and an induced menopause. In my mind I have planned for 10 years of emotional, physical and financial stress. Then I am moving to Wales to be a writer, as payment to myself for getting through this decade. Units of time OP. Units of time.

Ahhh that's the letter from the teen, it really helped me through the worst of it.

Mines 17 now and the end is near.... he's realised and grown up a bit recently!

I do have friends with teens and we often commiserate together on their awfulness.

So where to buy these barrels? Link please 🤣
My youngest is just about to hit teens I don't think I can do it again

Please don’t leave them, when they are behaving badly is when they need you the most.

But they need to realise that just because you are their parent doesn't mean you have to put up with shit all the time. Parents have a right to a life that isn't all drama, it is wearing and does nothing for someones mental health. Perhaps sometimes a short sharp shock is what they bloody need to realise what effect they are having. Parents aren't saints and it does teenagers good to realise that sometimes.

Nope.. go for a walk or a drive and sort your head out, these children need you, have a read into the teenage brain, it’s not fully developed. I have two on my own 24/365. So I feel the pain x

@KeepingAnOpenMind
At what point do you conclude from very limited information that they are difficult qnd ungrateful?

Could you have a week away? Sounds like you need it

I once asked my teen - why did you start shouting at me and telling me I was wrong when clearly, I was right?
She thought about and said: I don't know. I knew you were right but I just felt this total rage, I can't explain it.
I think about it every time I want to put her on a space ship and dump her somewhere through the next wormhole.