Been with Dp 10 years. We have two dc.
With his family it's all about Dp.
Me, Dp and dc are going through some tough times lately. Too much to talk about really. For example, we all had had covid recently . There was constant messages to the group chat asking how Dp was, they knew we all had it but not once did they ask how dc and I was. Dp was actually the least affected (mainly asymptomatic) but I had constant texts from mil telling to let Dp rest whilst I was pretty poorly myself. They sent stuff over like books and snacks etc for Dp, I do not expect them to do anything but for the grandchildren maybe? Mil even told Dp tk go around there and rest whilst he had covid, despite not actually being ill (headache for one day, very mild cold symptoms). Whereas I was pretty ill.
It's a bizarre mindset. When I had my second covid jab last year, I was really ill... Dp had his at a similar time and had no side effects but mil told him he had to rest whilst she knew I was really ill after mine.
We are going through tough times, I won't go into detail as outing. Constant messaging saying Dp needs to take some out to himself, what about me?!! I know they are his family. But they are always telling Dp to take it easy etc!!
I think they look down on me cos I don't work at the minute, I'm just a SAHP currently. That I must have loads of time on my hands, I don't. Eldest son has additional needs, my life is far from chilled.
In laws have referred to me as a lady of leisure before being a sahp 😅👏 far from the truth. I spend my weeks chasing up things, appointments, cleaning, running errands for my gran who's struggling health wise.
They've always made me feel like I'm not enough.
I do all the housework, Dp cooks and is great with the kids. But he doesn't life a finger Aldine the house.
I know there his family, not mine. But they make me feel like my feelings are not valid. Look down on me etc.
I'm done. I feel like I could end it with Dp over how worthless his family make me feel!!
They always offer support to Dp but never to me or the dc.
I don't need support. But mil is very fond of her daughters boyfriends but not me.
I don't give them any reason to do this. I've shown nothing but kindness to them. Mil has said some awful things to me over the years (usually when Dp is out of ear shot) and I've never argued back, not once. I cannot stand up for myself.