To be so worried about the little things..

[leopardprintpants]

I am getting myself worked up over possibly small details for my wedding so, I am asking for your help!

If you have planned a great wedding or even been to a well detailed wedding; what small details went unmissed and which made an impact?

I am currently obsessing over acrylic circles which will sit over the edge of the cocktails. PATHETIC 😂

So.. your detail do's and dont bother's please..

You need plenty of good food and drink, music during the meal so the room isn't quiet and a nice bouquet of flowers.
Everything else is a lot of time and expense that people don't notice or remember!

Other people don't care about those things.

Good food
Lots of variety of drinks - soft and alcoholic
Plenty of loos
No boring long speeches
Able to mix and mingle
Relaxed
Fun

I am currently obsessing over acrylic circles which will sit over the edge of the cocktails.

What in the hell is this?

Honestly, as a guest I remember the times when I've felt like a backdrop for their day, the ones we've been hungry or thirsty at, and the ones where there are family undercurrents of tension. I couldn't tell you a thing about table decorations, favours, or indeed any detail - including my own wedding.

All the guests will remember is a happy and relaxed occasion (once formalities are complete). Many people these days will actually judge you with a bit of an eye roll for all these ‘special extras’.

Nice food and drink, sensible seating plans and some jolly speeches followed by some music and dancing. They’ll remember the laughter much more than the cocktail acrylic thing I can’t even picture in my head.

That said, each to their own. Have a lovely day.

You won't even remember what acrylic circles are in the cocktails (?) in 10 years time.

The day is just one day in, hopefully, a lifetime of marriage. The marriage is the important part, not the wedding.

Chill out and relax or you won't enjoy the day at all.

@Aquamarine1029

I am currently obsessing over acrylic circles which will sit over the edge of the cocktails.

What in the hell is this?

I ended up in a rabbit hole on a bridal blog and decided these are a must 😂

Little circles with a cut out part so they sit on the edge of the glass. 😂

Please do not bother!!

Go eco friendly and ditch all "clutter"

You’re inviting people who you hopefully care about so make sure they’re having fun, are fed, watered and warm enough. Don’t fuck off doing photos for hours leaving them hungry. Cater for dietary needs. They hopefully care about you too and want to be there to celebrate your marriage.

No one gives a toss about table centres, favours (if you insist then make them small or edible - if I can’t eat it or it won’t fit in my bag I’m leaving it on the table), flowers, what car you arrive in, they don’t really care about the speeches as long as they’re not too long. Don’t interrupt the meal for speeches, that’s very annoying.

Just relax. It’s one day.

Will there be a couple getting married?
Will you have a fancy dress people can go 'ooh' and 'aaah' over?
Will there be a photographer?
Will there be alcohol and food?

Then your wedding has everything it needs.

People don't go to wedding for the small details. They go for the party.

I can barely remember what favours we had, I can guarantee nobody else remembers. No one could tell you about the table decorations at my wedding either. We didn't even have flowers.
Lots of people went out of their way to tell us how much they enjoyed our wedding, though. I put that down to good food, plenty of drink, sociable space, a good DJ who was able to read the room and take requests and lots of time to spend chatting to people - not a ridiculously rigid schedule.
FWIW, we had the big white wedding at a posh hotel, we just made it our own.

@Shortbreadselection

You need plenty of good food and drink, music during the meal so the room isn't quiet and a nice bouquet of flowers. Everything else is a lot of time and expense that people don't notice or remember!

This.

We kept people fed and watered, with nice music. If its going to be a hot day provide shade and seating options for people.

We also picked a venue that was beautiful in and of itself so didn't need a lot of extra "decor".

I can't even imagine what they look like...But bin the acrylic circles, no one cares. spend the money on honeymoon massage instead 😍

Don’t fuck off doing photos for hours leaving them hungry.

A million times this. I've been to several weddings where this happened and it was the worst. At one we were stuck in the vestibule of the venue, the staff wouldn't allow the guests to go into the event room until the bride and groom got back. No food, no drinks for almost three hours. It was horrible.

Good food, served at the right time so people aren't stood around hungry, beautiful flowers and good music. Nobody remembers anything else and half the favours are always left behind

Honest advice is to step away completely from all wedding magazines and blogs and podcasts and Pinterest. It's all fudge.

I remember weddings where the bride and groom looked thrilled and in love and were glowing about getting married, it's lovely to see. PP's have mentioned plenty of food and drink (and if you're skint it's absolutely fine to do a pot luck/bring something sort of do, they're good fun). I'd only say personally as a guest that I appreciate warmth or the ability to get warm! I've been to a few where I've been cold all sodding day long. Good luck.

And in defence of brides and grooms; when I got married, it was my photographer who tried to pressure me into having a whole load of official photos right after the ceremony, leaving my guests floundering and waiting. It suited him to get all the big pictures ASAP so he could leave as quickly as possible. Nope. Stood my ground. Had fizz and vol au vents and all that jazz, breathed out, kissed my family and friends and then took photos!

@Aquamarine1029

Don’t fuck off doing photos for hours leaving them hungry.

A million times this. I've been to several weddings where this happened and it was the worst. At one we were stuck in the vestibule of the venue, the staff wouldn't allow the guests to go into the event room until the bride and groom got back. No food, no drinks for almost three hours. It was horrible.

A million more times this.

We had been to 3 weddings the year before ours where the bride and groom disappeared for between 2-4(four!!!!) Hours
We thought it was nuts - people need 5-10 nice photos.

We let guests arrive at reception venue and have a welcome drink and we did 30 mins of pictures - they look great and we have a nice selection. We arrived and had a quick chat and a swift one before sitting down for a meal with guests.

Table decorations - no one cares even when they say it looks nice
The decor in general no one cares about, unless you've picked a horrible hotel which I doubt.

Make sure you have good food and plenty of it, drinks available even if you aren't paying for them, and not much standing around waiting for something to happen. Fairly simple really, it's all the extras like the favours, the LOVE letters etc that people waste money on.

For me… I hate long boring speeches, I like nice food and drinks and good music. For me, the music was the main thing.. we had a really good DJ with a massive play list of music. I hate cheesy music so ensured there was none!