To not respond to stupid question or ones that have already been answered

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This is actually doing my head in. This is an example in a long line of examples that I can choose from. I not sure if it’s because he doesn’t listen out doesn’t think he needs to remember.
So midweek DH asks what we are doing at weekend. I say Saturday I am picking some furniture up but will need you give me a hand getting it in the car. Sunday DD is at a competition and once I drop her off early morning we can do whatever as there are no spectators. He asked if that was the only day she was competing as he was aware the competition runs from Friday to Sunday night. I told him just Sunday.
Friday night I dropped her off for training it took me just under 30 mins. DH was in the house when I left and got back. Bare in mind if she has been competing Friday night it would have took me near 1.30 hrs to get there and back.
When I got back home I switched on the live stream of competition to see how some of her friends were doing. DH looked at my computer screen and said what heat is DD in then. I thought WTAF I have told you a number of times she is not competing Friday night and how do you think I managed to get there and back in 30 mins when it’s a 1.30 hr journey.
So today he asks me if I am taking her Sunday and what time I will be back. I told him about 9.30 and he was oh are you not spectating then. I told him I have already told you about 10 times there are no spectators. He told me not to be arsey.
This is just one example of him asking the same questions over and over and me having to repeat what I have already told him. So in future I am not going to answer another question that I have already told him the answer to a million times. I am not be unreasonable am I. I feel it’s frazzling my brain

I'm a bit on the fence.
Had I seen you watching the competition, I might have thought I'd misheard or misunderstood or remembered wrongly. I don't think that is unreasonable.

In terms of arrangements generally, when my dc were of an age where they needed to be various places that one of us would have to take them, we made a point of sitting down each Sunday with the calendar, and going through the week so we were both clear about the arrangements. For us, "in passing conversations" were too risky that one or the other of us wasn't making a note / going to remember / taking into account stuff like that was the week the car was in for some repair at the garage, or the week that one of us wasn't getting out of work until late or whatever. It had to be a clear time with work diaries and a note of who needed to be where, when, and then our own calendars to make a note of who was dropping off, who was fetching etc.

Yanbu. You seem to be doing a lot of running around and knowing the organisation and arrangements needed and he can't be bothered to even retain what you've told him is happening, preferring you to keep repeating it instead

YANBU op, that would stew my cabbage too. If he (your H) is a parent too than he has equal responsibility to remember where your children are and what they're doing. You're not his mummy or his bloody P.A.

I get it, you are the holder of all information and he needed not hold it as it's easier to ask you.

My partner can't hold any information in his head, he doesn't so packed lunches for a week then says 'what do they have, I've forgotten' I say you know what they have but no, he requires instructions even though we have been parents for 13 years.

It's lazy expecting behaviour. And usually male. Know thy place woman.

I'm currently listening to a dialogue about how he can see the GP because as a grown male, he can't do that without asking me about how to do it.

My dad does this a lot, and my mum's taken to pausing, and very calmly asking "do you remember what I told you when you asked this yesterday?" and then usually he either does, or has to admit that he wasn't listening properly.