Finding OH so irritating right now

[Funkyslippers]

He got up late, popped to his allotment this morning, made himself some pasta for lunch then got ready to go to football, I asked him to wash up before he went, he made an excuse and fucked off. DD and I had nice afternoon without him. He's now back, barely said a word, stick his earphones in, listening to podcast, I asked him how the game was, he didn't as how I am(I've had covid), he's just sat there either biting his nails or picking at his skin. No offer to help with tea or anything else. He's such an arse ATM. Sorry not really an aibu

Right, so he’s ignoring you while you wait on him. Don’t lift another finger for him then. If he’s not already had his tea, stop making it. Who, and where, does he think he is?

He's an arse OP. Mine's the same unfortunately. He says he's bringing dinner home but I don't know when that'll be so I don't know if I can give the DC something to eat or not? If I do feed them he will be in the door as soon as the plate hits the table and I'll be in the shit for feeding them when I 'know he's bringing home dinner' 🙄 And if they don't finish what he brings that'll obviously be my fault too for feeding them at an incorrect time. But I also have to feed my DC!!

Whatever happens I'm always in the wrong. He sets it up that way, so that whatever option I pick it can turn out to be the wrong one. For example he gave me two options for what to bring home for dinner. He may or may not actually go with my choice, but why the fuck ASK me and then just do whatever you want anyway?

And when he gets home he'll be 'staaarving' which will be of course everyone's fault but his and we will have to drop whatever we are doing and come to the table NOW because he is hungry now right now. I'm so sick of having to pretzel myself around his moods and the tension in the house is unfair on everyone. God I'm so sick of him.

Alphabet I'm so sorry. Mine doesn't set things up in that way but sometimes will purposely come home and not ask how I am even if I've been out all afternoon with DD. If I bring it up like I did tonight he'll say 'you would tell me anyway so why do I need to ask?' Well I might, but it's just nice for him to take an interest! Also if I hadn't done dinner for us we just wouldn't eat. He's not usually this lazy but I wouldn't dream of assuming dinner will be done when I get in. He also watched me do DDs tea without any help from him. Luckily our DDs are older so I don't need to worry about us all eating together or anything. He's a good bloke in many ways but can be v irritating and thoughtless. I mean, I'm recovering from COVID, and not even a how are you.

Anyway enough about me. Please do pm me if you want to talk

His behaviour is incredibly rude and selfish! Suitable for a 15 year old boy maybe who can’t be arsed to interact with his parents and want to be left alone but not for a husband! What the actual hell …

Don’t let him treat you like this @Funkyslippers , take his fucking earphones out and ask him what the hell is his problem?

Ah, I'm just having a rant @Funkyslippers Yes, they can be quite thoughtless and self involved. Hope you feel better

You too @AlphabetStew. Please rant away! Hope your day tomorrow is better. Sadly I'm still isolating until at least Monday