Aibu to think it’s not just your kids trying to fit in at school

[Av0bo55]

Is it just my feelings here!
Or are a lot of parents of school children almost acting like children too?
The clique’s and the gossiping and the exclusion of certain parents and children from social events?
I feel like this sometimes and I’m often wondering why we don’t fit in
Perhaps they don’t like us or my dc
Although they all have good friends and I thought we got on well with a lot of the parents, but we seem to be excluded from outside meet ups and social events
Anyone else find this?
If not perhaps some tips to make us more popular and likeable? 😆 Or maybe I just need to find a new hobby and go make some new friends!! 😆 hobby ideas then!

@Av0bo55 I have definitely seen this, and agree with posters that some years/classes are far worse than others. I work FT so stay out of it hugely. I have seen 3 friends (albeit one is an acquaintance) get majorly into it and as a result trying to assert control over peer groups and friendships. She gave up teaching to become a 'career parent' and I honestly thing she negatively impacted that class in terms of the children's relationships & the parents behaviour for years.

The others probably didn't have 'enough' going on in their lives outside of the dc but were less nasty about it, and more envisioned that motherhood = mummy friends you have coffee with after the school run.

What they've all had that is very noticeable to me is a lot more hurt/stress/worry about peer relationships and school/parent politics than the rest of us. Conversations about life = stress about what is happening among parents at the school pick up, and subsequently the peer groups. For some it worked well for their 1 dc's school experience and has been disastrous for their 2 dc, or 3 dc. It isn't a life I'd want, nor do I have time for.

Hold your head high, invite your dc's preferred friends for playmates, smile and be friendly but stay out of it. Your child is better off in the long run if you do b/c they won't lose friends b/c of parent behaviour/popularity.

Thanks all
some really good advice