To feel frustrated by issues in the bedroom

[Jacamoz]

Ok, so I’ll get straight to the point and I apologise in advance for the bluntness of my post. My dh keeps loosing his erection when we have sex and I’m so fucking frustrated. I have been nothing but supportive and understanding up to now and have never made my dh feel embarrassed or pressured. but inside I feel sad and frustrated. I ask him what’s wrong and he tells me he doesn’t know but I have a feeling he does. Don’t get me wrong I know some men once they’re in their 40’s can suffer with erection problems every now and again but with my husband it’s a bit different. Foreplay is amazing between us and when we are doing that he is rock hard yet the moment we start to initiate sex he goes all floppy. If he were having problems in general gaining or keeping an erection then I’d suggest going to see the GP for a check up but the fact he can gain an erection easily eg the other day we had a quick passionate kiss and bam there it was, and can keep it throughout the whole of foreplay makes me think something else is going on. AIBU to think there is something he’s not telling me?

Agree with GP visit to rule out other causes such as diabetes and hypertension.
Cialis is better than viagra in terms of spontaneity, viagra needs to be timed before sex and actual stimulation required.
It does sound like lost confidence and overthinking on his part.
Good luck

Can you get Cialis without a prescription or would he need to see his Gp?

@Jacamoz

Can you get Cialis without a prescription or would he need to see his Gp?

You can order it online. Use a reputable pharmacy like Lloyd's or Superdrug.

My ex had this problem and it was triggered by my 15yr old walking in one morning when we were having sex. Same as you - rock hard during foreplay then lost it when we went for piv.

I "solved" it by not saying "let's fuck now" - I would just stop sucking him and leap on top. It meant he didn't have time to get in his own head and think "oh God, what if I can't???" After a couple of weeks doing that, the problem resolved itself.

If you're using condoms, I'd suggest putting one on during foreplay - the pause to put it on gives too much thinking time, coupled with the change in sensation it can spell instant erection killer.