Anyone else find it a little annoying when people don't reply to messages

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Not expecting them to reply immediately, but for instance a friend had a baby a few months ago. I messaged asking how he's doing, with no reply and it's been 4 days. I know having a baby takes up a lot of time but she's often posting on social media and online, and has a lot of support from husband and family so I'm not sure why..

The second one is an old colleague/friend. I asked him if he and his partner would be free to meet up with my partner and I anytime between x and x date as we would be in their area.

No reply and it's been several days, even though he had replied to previous messages.

Just makes you feel a bit awkward like have I said something weird or annoying, though I don't think so. I don't constantly message them either

First friend - could have genuinely just forgot to reply. I have done this so, so many times.
Second friend - that's rude. It could be that they wanted to check with their dp and then also forgot to get back to you.
I have just had a quick look at my messages, I have 2 that I have forgot to reply to/got busy/needed to check with dh and then forgot. It isn't nice though.

I think it’s very rude and is something that does upset me. I always reply to messages, even when I don’t feel like it. It’s like ignoring someone speaking to you to me.

Some people are just crap at replying, it’s always the same people over and over so you learn to expect it from them.

I only find it annoying when I’m trying to arrange something with them and I need to know if it’s a yes or no so I can make alternative arrangements.

I agree. I don't expect instant replies and sometimes everyone drops balls and forgets but I think people who terminally can't reply are rude.

I have an old friend who is otherwise lovely who never replies to text messages and it drives me nuts People always say "that's just what she's like", but I find it disrespectful. No one is so busy they can't send a brief three/four word message via text within 48 hours. At some level they just can't be arsed or think they are too important.

I think up to 5 days is fine but fallen out with a friend that was replying every time 2-3 weeks. Using kids as a excuse. It just not a conversation. Just don't believe that in 3 weeks someone can't catch up with personal messages. I'm friends will single mums that run their own businesses that reply between instantly to 10 days and differs every time.