To find it annoying when DH constantly asks questions when he is tidying up

[Sockshoesock]

This morning, I’m in bed, DH is tidying. Constantly coming in the bedroom to ask ‘is this clean’ ‘do you know where the other sock is’ ‘where does this go?’

Arrggghhh

My 11 year old does that. We ignore him.

He's wanting you to join in the tidying. Ignore him.

Oh dear god, my DH does this too. It drives me up the wall!

He wants you to know he’s tidying up!

Reply with ‘I don’t know’. He will eventually get the message.

@Redlorryyellowduck

He's wanting you to join in the tidying. Ignore him.

He does!

My H constantly asks if we "still need this" each time he picks up an item, just because he cba to tidy, he'd rather put it in a bag to the charity shop than put it fucking away. Picking up sons toys like "oh this can go now" when he got it 2 weeks ago and plays with it constantly. "He's too old for this now" - Teddy he's very attached to. Literally every item. Drives me up the fucking wall.

LTB !

Call him out on it. Explain you're not his mummy and a grown man should be able to tidy without a handhold. If he really doesn't know where things go, ask him why it's your job to know instead. Maybe he should find out by himself, and be ashamed he doesn't know already.

When I get totally pissed off I tell my OH to use his own brain and not mine! It's not very fair of me because he is usually really good about doing things, but I do really get annoyed about the constant questions.

@Heavymetaldetector

My H constantly asks if we "still need this" each time he picks up an item, just because he cba to tidy, he'd rather put it in a bag to the charity shop than put it fucking away. Picking up sons toys like "oh this can go now" when he got it 2 weeks ago and plays with it constantly. "He's too old for this now" - Teddy he's very attached to. Literally every item. Drives me up the fucking wall.

Oh my god my DH does this!! Always wanting to get rid of the kids’ toys when they play with them all the time!! Saying it’s clutter they don’t need it when they only got something for Christmas. What do they actually expect living with toddlers?!

@Iloveacurry

He wants you to know he’s tidying up!

Definitely, it's performance tidying!

DH is always asking "have you seen my key/shoes/gloves etc etc"- drives me mad. I started to just ignore him. I haven't got every item's location mapped in my brain and it's his own fault for abandoning his stuff everywhere!