To rehome one of my cat?

[Greenbluestar]

My heart is broken. My cats hate each other. They used to get on fine then the third one passed away and they couldn’t stand each other. I tried separating them and introducing them slowly. Fail. I’ve tried supplements, essential oils, feliway friends, special calming collars but I am at my wits end. I have accepted that they need to be kept separate because if they encounter each other it is world war 3. Blood, piss, fur, etc. I’ve lived in a divided house for over a year. But one of them is becoming wise to slipping through and I can’t take no more. I am walking on egg shells because of it, I don’t feel like the cats are happy and it’s all pretty miserable. I am trying to navigate this situation with a soon to be one year old and I am dreading when she becomes old enough to open doors. How will I explain that? Feel like rehoming one of them is my only option. Am I selfish?

[quote Greenbluestar]@HTH1 Both neutered. It’s a rescue

@Crunchymum
I am rehoming the aggressor because the other cat was here first and is older. And the other cat is black and statistically they are harder to rehome (no idea why as I adore black cats).[/quote]
Thank you for answering, I was being quite nosy I realise.

Your option is very sensible.

My childhood cat was all black, she was a beautiful girl.

Another question, out of nosiness, were either related to the third cat who passed away? I wonder why that cat was able to keep them both in line.

You sound like a caring and responsible owner. Well done for putting all the cats first here.

We have a similar situation going on with a sibling pair. Not as bad as you describe but they just about tolerate eachtoher.