Aibu to be annoyed?

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Applied for an internal promotion at work, had to tell my line manager I had the interview as I needed short notice time off.

My manager asked me how the interview went and what questions etc I was asked after the interview. I just thought he was making general conversation.

Turns out my line manager told someone else in the office what I said to him about the interview, as this person had an interview for the same job a few days after I did.

Aibu to be annoyed that my manager essentially told his friend what I told him in confidence? Fair enough it’s not personal information, but he’s definitely given this person an unfair advantage. I just feel like a laughing stock

You need to be aware that anything that you say, email or do at work is open to scrutiny and is not confidential, however much you would like it to be.
I found out recently that all of my emails to work regarding my absence have been forwarded to HR, including ones that had personal remarks to colleagues. More fool me. I will be far more guarded in future.

And for the future, keep your chin up - it will pass.

Hmm, in my experience they don't always ask exactly the same questions for each interview - I interviewed for an internal role alongside three of my colleagues, we all got asked different technical questions, so even sharing between interviews wouldn't have helped!

Why would you be a laughing stock? 😂

@ohhooh

Hmm, in my experience they don't always ask exactly the same questions for each interview - I interviewed for an internal role alongside three of my colleagues, we all got asked different technical questions, so even sharing between interviews wouldn't have helped!

Why would you be a laughing stock? 😂

Oh it was the same questions confirmed, the other person told me my manager told them the questions after speaking to me and it was the same questions they had.

And I guess I just feel used - I have probably missed out on the job now after being used as an information sieve by my own manager? Like no matter how well I did, you can’t really beat knowing exactly what an interviewer will ask you and being able to prepare a perfect response

Yeah I'd be pissed off.

Chin up, doesn't mean he'll get it by knowing the questions first.

Thank you, I think I need to grow a thicker skin at work.

Very crappy of your manager

Just shows that your manager is a bit of a snake. Just keep that in mind when sharing information with him in the future. X

At least you know your manager's a twat who can't be trusted!

Ive been there, it does feel rubbish but try not to dwell on it.

In my first job out of uni a senior colleague told me "trust nobody" in response to me being upset someone had betrayed me after I told them something and assumed it would stay between private. At the time I thought it was really unsympathetic and harsh response to me but actually in the years since I've come to learn that it's true. I love my colleagues and am close with lots of them but I still hold back with some things because when it comes to work I have learned my lesson that you really should not trust anybody 100%.

That really sucks. If you feel very strongly you could always complain to HR. Will there be 2nd interviews? In any case you should certainly mention to your manager that you feel they gave the other candidate an advantage and ask them why.

I'd be annoyed too and I would tell people that he did this - especially as the conversation was not confidential, how can he complain?
Fire with fire
Every private conversation I had with him from now onwards would start with 'so is this a private chat?'