Safe ways to come out

[Outing543]

Prompted by another thread. If you’re gay what ways did you ‘test the water’ to come out to your family?

I remember saying ‘oh they’re a nice couple aren’t they about Sophie and her girlfriend on Coronation street. 😂

Parents just said ‘not really, it’s shoving the gay agenda down our throats’

Not an ideal start I admit!

I've never been one for saying much. I just took my girlfriend home for dinner and introduced her as my girlfriend.

@Onlyforcake

I've never been one for saying much. I just took my girlfriend home for dinner and introduced her as my girlfriend.

This is how I'd want my DC to do it if they were gay, no being afraid, just introduce their girlfriend they would a boyfriend.

My son is gay. He's never told me as much and I don't think he needs to actually tell me.

Not bothered

No big 'coming out' needed in our family.
Same sex partner introduced in the same way as heterosexual dc introduced their partners.

Parents just said ‘not really, it’s shoving the gay agenda down our throats’

Ugh, they sound horrible.

I don't know if it was a big thing for DD really, she told me at 14 she was a lesbian, I gave her a cuddle and told her I loved her and that as long as she was happy I didn't care who she had relationships with. And that was kind of it.

In a conversation with my Mum about an upcoming event, I said ""My friend "Alison" is coming with me" - took a deep breath, and said "actually she is more than just a friend." My mum laughed and said she had already guessed, and we moved on with the plans.

Our daughter wrote us a note because she didn't know how to express herself properly (fairly normal for her, it's how she's told us stuff important to her for a while) however...the note disappeared down the back of the drawers she'd place it on for a few weeks and we didn't see it so the poor girl thought we knew and were ignoring that she'd told us!

When we found the note we just gave her cuddles and thanked her for sharing something so important...which is when she asked why it had taken us weeks to say something!

Thankfully she saw the funny side of "coming out" and the message literally being lost. She's stil finding her way with who she wants to be open about this but has our complete support.

I really don't understand how parents could react in any other way. You either love your kids or you don't. It shouldn't be conditional on who they fancy!