Immense charm

[Jennyfromthere]

As a female if an older male client said to you “use your immense charm (to get a discount for him)” how would you feel about it? AIBU to be immensely irritated because he wouldn’t say this to a male, or not?

I think it would depend on the context and the relationship I had with him. If I didn't know him well I might judge him as old fashioned/ misoginistic. But if I knew him better and it was said part in jest, then I'd think it just light-hearted and it wouldn't bother me. I don't think it's necessarily implausible that he'd say it to a (younger) male.

Do you know he wouldn't say this to a male? My DH is far more charming than me, I say it to him all the time, often using him to my advantage! The amount of times we've got a discount / upgrade / freebie is wild. I thought I had charm, but not compared to him!

Personally I'd just take it as I was indeed charming! Do you have any reason to truly believe you aren't?

I don’t know him particularly well. He’s a client who generally ignores me and I’m not usually worth his time. On meeting for the third time a little while ago he said “so nice to meet you” as he’d forgotten we’d met twice previously.

I’m not charming in the slightest 🤣🤣

If you're not someone who would ever try to charm someone into doing something then it's a clumsy and rather crass comment I think. Especially if the industry you work in isn't one where discounts can be obtained that way.