to be annoyed with BF's DH

[anneme]

Just been at BF's house for tea. Another family were there and DS1 age 4 and another visiting 4 yr old were messing around and being v annoying. Sudden ruckus and DS1 was crying a lot. He told us that BF's DH hit him because he was being annoying. Mum of other child just phoned and confirmed this. DH mentioned htat DS had said this in front of BF's DH but he did not respond but was clearly v wound up. DO I say anything? DS1 rather wary of him now. BF would be horrified. Think it is a one off but not sure how confident I feel with her DH now and also feel a bit pissed off that DS1 has been made to look as if he was the one being unreasonable.

Have you spoken to BF's DH?
Because I would be round there like a shot.

sorry - have douyble threaded - have another thread on this too!

Outrageous - you must tell your BF. Her DH just can't go round hitting other people's kids. I too would be round there like a shot, and so would my DH!

Agree with HonoriaGlossop - I wouldn't hit my DS and would be very if anyone else did. I certainly wouldn't hit someone else's child.

I am surprised you are being so reasonable.....I would have hit the roof.

YANBU!

Fecking go round there, hold him by the chin up against the fecking wall and let him know if he so much as lays a finger on your kids again you'll call the police AND social services...

Or just call them anyway.

HE hit your child!!!
I would floor him.

Jesus H christ. I have often looked after friends and families children, they have even on occasion called me 'Auntie Hitler' because I can be quite strict, but there is no way I would have hit one of them.

There are a million and one different ways to discipline a child, and even if you are someone who agrees with smacking it should surely be a last resort, not because a visiting 4yo was being 'annoying'!!

I would speak to your BF ASAP.

How do you get on with this man normally? Is he usually a bit of an arse, or an OK chap? Because if you are on friendly terms with him maybe rining him up and telling him calmly but firmly that hitting your DS is unacceptable and you want him to apologise would be the best way forward.

I would be very annoyed if anyone hit my child. Def needs speaking to and fast imo.

Thank you everyone. Went out last night and BF was there and her D(?) H had told her what had happened which is a big step forward. I think that, between us, we can now sort things out. I am still furious with him - in many ways the thing that makes me angriest is that he let me stand there and tell DS1 off for being naughty when he was not the bad one in the situation and that makes me feel that I let him down.
I will speak to BFDH but need to calm down -he is an arrogant t*** and has been awful to BF in the past. In some ways I hope that this makes her see what a complete git he is. Some hope.
Anyway - happy new year - DS1 is fine now and I am spending lots of time cuddling him.

You are being very sensible and mature about the situation, anneme.

I admire you for that, as I know I would be hysterical about it, and probably rounding up a lynch mob.

I certainly know that my DH would have to be the one to speak to BF DH, as I would be overly tempted to rest my weary kneecap amongst his testicular area.

You haven't let your son down at all; you weren't aware of the full facts at the time.

I hope it gets sorted - and Happy New Year.