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Original poster

To be pissed off at DS nursery?

25 replies

Aimee1987 · 08/02/2022 09:04

At my DS nursery they move the kids from the 2-3 room ( where he is) to the 3-5 room at 5 o clock so if your after that time you collect from the older room. Fine I usually get there just after 5. Yesterday it was closer to 6 by the time I got there ( open till 6) and he was distraught and when I put my hand down his top he was roasting. He had been inside in a warm nursery in a big snow suit for 45 minutes. It took about an hour and 2 cups of water to calm him down.
Yesterday it was very cold (1-2 degrees) in the morning so he went in in a warm snow suit. It takes 25 minutes in the buggy to get there so I need him in warm clothes. Then I have the car for pick up.
I emailed the nursery and said this is not ok and didnt get a response but when I talked to him key worker this morning she said well hes older so doesnt need those big coats anymore. No acknowledgment of this being an issue.
AIBU to be very pissed off that the nursery dont seem to realise the issue with a massively overheated child and the fact that it can actually be dangerous.

Any suggestion on what to do outside of pulling him out. We both work ful time and that is not an option any other descent nursery in my area has huge waiting lists. He will only be there till Christmas when he will hopefully move to the preschool attached to his new school at 3.

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toomuchlaundry · 08/02/2022 09:06

Is your pick up time usually 5?

Nishkin · 08/02/2022 09:07

Yes, were they expecting you at 5?

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Aimee1987 · 08/02/2022 09:07

No its anytime before 6. I unusually get there just after 5 but all the kids wear their big winter coats indoors for up to an hour untill there collected which I find insane.

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Aimee1987 · 08/02/2022 09:08

When I I say usually probablyb70 - 80 % of the time so they had no expectation of my arrival at that time

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Onlyforcake · 08/02/2022 09:10

They can't meet your child's needs, so why would you want him to stay?

mandoforever · 08/02/2022 09:11

Can you ask them not to put his coat on? Say you'll do it when you arrive.
I agree I wouldn't be happy with that at all.

TabithaTittlemouse · 08/02/2022 09:12

Did you tell them that you were running late?

Tbh I would do nothing. You want him to stay there.

Hankunamatata · 08/02/2022 09:12

Bit mad they put coats on them indoors. But you knew they did this and still left a snowsuit for him to wear?

saltedcaramelanything · 08/02/2022 09:13

So at 5pm they put all the kids into their coats, getting them ready to go home, no matter what time they get picked up? That does seem strange to me.

Mumofsend · 08/02/2022 09:13

It's really dangerous. Why don't they just let you do it when you arrive? They are mad

Sally872 · 08/02/2022 09:15

Tell them not to put coat/snowsuit on until you arrive unless they are going in garden or wherever. If they don't do it again and no other issues then I would be fine with that going forward. Their response is really rude as well.

RandomQuest · 08/02/2022 09:15

No child should be wearing outdoor winterwear inside a warm building. What on earth are they thinking? If other childcare really isn’t an option then take the snowsuit with you after drop off and leave a lighter coat for when they play outside. They can’t put it on him if they don’t have it. But honestly that would only be a last resort after I’d called every other nursery and childminder in the area to see if they had space.

girlmom21 · 08/02/2022 09:18

Simply say:
Please don't put DS's coat on until I arrive.

I've turned up later than normal twice and DD's had her coat on. Both times she'd insisted because she knew I'd be there soon.

girlmom21 · 08/02/2022 09:19

@RandomQuest

No child should be wearing outdoor winterwear inside a warm building. What on earth are they thinking? If other childcare really isn’t an option then take the snowsuit with you after drop off and leave a lighter coat for when they play outside. They can’t put it on him if they don’t have it. But honestly that would only be a last resort after I’d called every other nursery and childminder in the area to see if they had space.
You'd honestly change from a nursery you were otherwise happy with to a childminder you know nothing about because the nursery put your child's coat on early once?
Original poster
Aimee1987 · 08/02/2022 09:23

To answer some questions. I didnt realise they did this untill yesterday.
Regarding the snow suit it is not going to go into nursery again ( he was previously on it sometimes at drop of) but going forward I will take it off and put it under the buggy.

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Itsalmostanaccessory · 08/02/2022 09:24

Why dont they just do costs when the parents arrive?

If you have no other options for nursery then you need to tell them straight. No putting coat on until you actually get there.

Magicandspiders · 08/02/2022 09:24

I would take snowsuit away with me in the morning.oncd you've dropped DS off. They can't put it on if it isn't there.

Chasingaftermidnight · 08/02/2022 09:26

I don’t get why they’d put the children in snowsuits/coats for pick up anyway. Any child that’s being picked up by car doesn’t need a coat/snowsuit so parents just have to take it off which is potentially a pain if you’re trying to wrestle your kid into a car seat with a queue of other parents waiting.

I’d try raising it again - no child should be wearing outerwear indoors for a prolonged period of time. But I would also send him in to nursery with a coat rather than a big snowsuit because it’s much easier for them to take on and off.

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Aimee1987 · 08/02/2022 09:28

The nursery manager has just emailed being very apologetic and has assured me it will not happen again. I think I was very pissed off with his key workers reaction but as others had said if they dont have the warm coat they cant use it. He will go in in a lighter jacket. I think his key worker had probably just got a bollocking off the manager but still not overly impressed.
For those saying move he loves his nursery, also he is a child with multiple allergies and this nursery is one of the best we have seen or heard of from allergy support groups ect for accommodating them. I think me kicking up a fuss has made them realise the severity and it's on the radar of the manager.
I really just needed to vent but have calmed down now

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Aimee1987 · 08/02/2022 09:28

They have also said they will leave his coat off untill pick up ( even the lighter one)

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RandomQuest · 08/02/2022 09:32

You'd honestly change from a nursery you were otherwise happy with to a childminder you know nothing about because the nursery put your child's coat on early once?
Yes absolutely because the ridiculous coats on for an hour indoors policy is apparently standard at this nursery, the nursery doesn’t seem to think there’s any problem with this, OP’s son overheated and they still don’t think they did anything wrong and to top it off the key worker was really rude. Obviously I’d vet alternative childcare options but leaving a child at this nursery would be my absolute last resort.

RandomQuest · 08/02/2022 09:39

Good response from the manager though OP, if they’ve finally acknowledged the severity of it and have promised to leave coats off then I get that you want to give them another chance if everything else is good. It was refusing to admit there was any sort of issue that was really worrying and would send me running elsewhere. But sounds like it’s sorted now so good result.

SartresSoul · 08/02/2022 09:44

I’d take the suit away in future when you arrive and just leave him with a coat. Crazy they listened to him screaming for however long and didn’t click that he was too hot and uncomfortable in a big snowsuit inside a warm room Confused.

SazCat · 08/02/2022 09:45

@TabithaTittlemouse

Did you tell them that you were running late?

Tbh I would do nothing. You want him to stay there.

She wasn't running late though, if it's anything like my DCs nursery then pick up is anytime before 6pm. It doesn't have to be a regular time and they don't expect you to phone beforehand!
3Daddy31982 · 08/02/2022 09:51

He could have fitted. Op this isnt appropriate behaviour. I'd not want my child there.

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