Tired of friend but feel mean

[feelingguiltyyy]

I posted recently about living with my friend, who is being a little clingy and over-the-top. For example texting me being upset about her family member death anniversary and being annoyed because I was out when she “relived her last moments” and made me feel very guilty.

I haven’t seen her much recently as I’ve been out and about but, and I feel mean saying this, but I don’t really have the energy to deal with her?
She is texting me a lot less when we’re at work but every now and then, for example last night, she texts me asking if I’m coming home as she is struggling mentally.
Also one night last week, on a weekday where she knows I have to be up at 6, she came in drunk and very loud for the third time.

I want to be a good friend but I just haven’t got the energy anymore, am I being horrible?

YANBU she sounds very draining. I would be looking for alternative accommodation

No. That's a lot she's putting on you and you are not responsible for her emotional life, presumably never offered the support she is expecting. Signpost her to seeking out talking therapies as, clearly, she's struggling to get on with her life and has got caught somewhere in coming to terms with her loss.

You're her housemate, but she seems to be relying you as if you were her partner or her carer. She sounds like hard work, and I wouldn't have the energy to deal with her either. Texting you all the time when you're at work and badgering you to come home is not OK.

She's clearly got some issues that she needs help with, but she needs help from a professional, rather than leaning on you all the time and expecting your life to revolve around her. It doesn't sound like she's actually giving anything back to your friendship.

It sounds like too much for you to be expected to have to deal with. X