I’m *really* angry.

[AngryHopefulLady]

I’m really angry.

I miscarried in October but seemed to return to normal 30-day cycles until December, when I started to get spotting midcycle. Of course, at the time you might chalk it up to implantation bleeds, but I tested negative, and had a subsequent period.

I had what I thought was a period 25th Jan – 29th – VERY light.
I had purchased a digital ovulation kit that tracks oestrogen and LH, and 2 days ago (6th Feb) it started flashing, meaning an Oestrogen rise. This means that we should be trying to conceive. I also started bleeding again. Not VERY light, but still light.

My husband an anxious that the bleeding is a sign of something more sinister/concerning.

I’ve spoken to my GP, and a nurse via BUPA. Both have advised waiting another month or so to see if abnormalities continue.

I articulated to my husband that I was anxious he would find the situation repulsive – assuming we would still try for a baby despite the light bleeding. He reacted to this by saying I had put the onus on him to decide.

For context, we have never had sex while I have been on my period, and he has stated in the past wanting to avoid sexual content around my period.

I feel close to mental collapse – I am blaming myself and my body for failing me when I just want to get pregnant again. After losing a baby at 8 weeks. After that destroyed me.

The prospect of missing this month because of light bleeding is disappointing. Crushing. It’s also making me really f*cking mad.

Because a sure-fire way to NOT get pregnant is to not try at all.

Because my bleeding is a f*cking inconvenience.

Because I feel really alone.

Am I alone? Has anyone here conceived whilst also experiencing inter-cycle bleeding?

@Scrunchies not at all, I appreciate your perspective a lot

I’ve been there and it’s tough I wanted to try before I’d even had a period after a mmc I ended up having to go to hospital for treatment for in an ambulance because I was haemmoraging, I convinced myself having sex literally a week later was the answer and I’d get pregnant straight away in reality my dp was worried about hurting me and thought we should let everything heal properly, we waited until after first cycle and Luckily I did fall into a regular cycle the month after so i get that’s very lucky but we also decided not to make it about daily sex and ovulation tests and everything because it just makes it so so stressful - we spent a bit of money going away for a few days, went on lots of walks, went camping, had lots of drinks with friends etc. and we did conceive naturally after two cycles. However I think you should see who you need to see regarding the bleeding get all the tests necessary done and make sure everything is a-ok then crack on. Even if you pay for a private fertility scan, often private midwives will charge for a consultation where they scan look at your uterus and all your bits, talk about everything and can recommend what is best. Might put your mind at rest and allow you to vent to them about how you’ve been feeling too which will massively help. If you’re in Manchester or Cheshire I know a couple of places.

I had a single occasion of irregular bleeding and my GP referred me for a colposcopy. I wonder why they’re making you wait..?

I had mid cycle bleeding for a while and it was while TTC, probably around the time of ovulation. It took 2.5 years the first time and as far as I remember i wasn't having midcycle bleeding at that particular time. It wouldn't put me off TTC because for me midcycle spotting could be managed with a liner, it wasn't like a full period. I had an ultrasound (normal) and a smear test plus extra swabs were taken (all normal). Its really rubbish that you have to wait another month. Having now spent around 3.5 years of my life TTC and 1.5 years pregnant if I had a month where I knew I wasn't able to try I would try and get things out of the way I couldn't do while pregnant like if my smear test was due or if I had an annual dental check up due as they won't do xrays while pregnant. Take all your supplements as normal as need to take folic acid from before you are pregnant. Hope you get your baby soon.

@T00Ts oh that's interesting isn't it? 🤔