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Original poster

Gift after baby shower?

12 replies

Grk1964 · 07/02/2022 12:27

Friend has just had a baby. I bought several gifts for her baby shower.

I am visiting her next week. Will I be expected to take another gift for baby? I plan to take flowers for her.

YANBU - No
YABU - Yes, take another gift!

OP posts:
JustBlethering · 07/02/2022 12:31

No, another one shouldn't be expected. I loved people bringing me flowers, the best ones are the pre-arranged in a bag type ones to save her sorting them.

fighoney · 07/02/2022 12:35

No, if you want to bring something take a meal.

Barleysugar86 · 07/02/2022 12:39

You wouldn’t need to take another gift but I would anyway- probably something edible for the mum like a cake or other sweet treat. Someone came to visit with sushi shortly after I had my little one I loved it!

Personally I’d have hated the flowers- they would need the stems cutting, an eye kept on the water and falling leaves and when to throw them out etc. Also my work always sends some so my obvious go to vase and flower spot would have been in use.

Rrrob · 07/02/2022 12:42

I wouldn’t bother with flowers. Home cooked lasagne or cake/ biscuits to enjoy with tea while you are there!

Gizacluethen · 07/02/2022 12:43

God I hated people bringing flowers. Particularly ones I had to keep alive. Like I don't have enough to keep alive right now! 🤣
A home cooked meal is just the greatest gift. Nothing spectacular. A shepherd's pie that just needs warming up feels like a gourmet meal.

FurBabyMum02 · 07/02/2022 13:01

No need for another gift but I totally agree a cake or meal she can warm up will go down a treat, food prep will be way down on her list right now. Maybe also offer to wash up or run the hoover about while your there, little bits like that will usually be really appreciated.

Having said that when I had my baby we were in hospital a week and I came home to flowers on the table and it was honestly so lovely even though they come with the faff of looking after etc

mugoftea456 · 07/02/2022 13:04

Oh god- don't take flowers !

The faff of having to change the water, find a vase.

Take her a meal she can warm up instead !

ouchmyfeet · 07/02/2022 13:13

@Gizacluethen

God I hated people bringing flowers. Particularly ones I had to keep alive. Like I don't have enough to keep alive right now! 🤣 A home cooked meal is just the greatest gift. Nothing spectacular. A shepherd's pie that just needs warming up feels like a gourmet meal.
Me too. Had a proper meltdown on about day 3 or day 4 about how I couldn't cope with more flowers and wouldn't these selfish bastards stop sending me things when I had so much to do Blush.

I always bring home cooked food. Lasagne/shepherds pie if I have time. If not homemade scones with a punnet of strawberries and some clotted cream.

Original poster
Grk1964 · 07/02/2022 13:15

Ha, I loved getting flowers! 😂
But point taken, I won’t take any. She loves cake and sweet treats so I’ll take something she can eat x

OP posts:
heyitsthistle · 07/02/2022 13:16

I'm going against the grain here and would prefer flowers over a meal Smile

But there's no pressure to bring another gift.

Blossomtoes · 07/02/2022 13:20

Does nobody have a partner who can take on the overwhelming responsibility of looking after the flowers? I can’t imagine getting bent out of shape over something as lovely as a bouquet.

Sweetener12 · 08/02/2022 08:53

Another gift isn't actually expected but it's nice and flowers are great, OP! I did a baby shower slideshow for my best friend along with a gift as she's allergic to most flowers but had this not been the case, I'd go for the flowers too.

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