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AIBU to not want DH looking through my phone?

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NWE231 · 07/02/2022 12:20

I'll be honest I'm protective over my mobile, I don't like other people snooping through it, I wouldn't snoop through someone elses as I'd respect their privacy!

There's nothing to hide, I'm not cheating, I'm not speaking to anyone I shouldn't, not even watching any adult content ffs. I'll let my brother or sister use my phone no problem as I know they will not search through it but sadly I know DH will if he had half a chance.

Case in point, years ago I let him use my laptop and 30mins later he came storming back to question me on my internet history... Literally the first thing he did was search through it. The thing he was so concerned about? I clicked on another mans profile on facebook, this guy lived 200miles away and it was my friend who sent it to me as she was seeing him. He was still really suspicious but anyone with eyes could have seen it was nothing to be concerned about.

Anyway he has been moaning about it again today saying he doesn't know my passcode and what am I hiding. It's pissing me off so much I'm tempted to tell him the passcode he can search through my phone see there is nothing then I'll kick the fucker out the door.

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ABitBesottedWithMyDog · 07/02/2022 12:55

And further Google searches on "my husband is crap in bed," "My husband has halitosis," "my husband has a VPL".

Dibble135 · 07/02/2022 13:05

Are you sure he isn’t projecting and has something to hide himself?

I ask because I’ve been on the receiving end of this from my controlling ex. He once accused me of cheating after checking my phone whilst I was in the shower based on texts to meet Sam for lunch.

Sam = Samantha.

I had to call her to prove she wasn’t a guy before he would let it drop.

I now know his suspicions were caused by him cheating on me.

pointythings · 07/02/2022 13:30

His jealousy is his problem to address. You need to tell him this. No need at all to pander to it.

NWE231 · 07/02/2022 15:03

Thank you all I really appreciate the replies

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GroggyLegs · 07/02/2022 16:07

It's pissing me off so much I'm tempted to tell him the passcode he can search through my phone see there is nothing then I'll kick the fucker out the door.

Don't blame you.
Jealousy is a very, very unattractive trait.

Does he monitor anything else?

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