To ask you what Mother's Day you'd prefer?

[JunoLunar]

Just realised that I'm away with both DC's (under 7's) on my own for Mother's Day this year.
I don't mind this at all and have been away with them on my own loads, we always have the best time. My worry is that I'm wasting that one day of my dp doing more around the house.
However in previous years, I've felt annoyed that it's never really 'my' day. I run around after my MIL, my dm, my lovely dgm etc. I don't begrudge it but apart from a bottle of gin bought from the local shop (usually on the day) my dp doesn't really bother. He does the basics but I still have to do the organising, driving, shopping, card making, mental load part of the day.
It would be quite nice to be away and have a 'day' which although won't start with breakfast in bed etc, will be far less stressful in some ways.
The concerns are that MIL will be devastated at not seeing her GC's on the day, I worry also that none of her DC's will make it special. My Dm won't care, and I'll see my DGM the day after.
What would you like do?

I’d say it’s up to your DH to sort something for his own mum on Mother’s Day. Go away and enjoy yourself with your DCs!!

Time away with your DC sounds like a great way to spend Mother's Day. Is it too harsh to say that if your MIL wanted more of a fuss she should have taught her son how to treat the women in his life a bit better?

Go away. Leave your dh to sort his mother's day out.

It's my first mother's day this year. Not a chance am I spending it with MIL tbh. I've already decided that if DH is adamant he's seeing his mum on mother's day then I'm going out with DS and he can go out with his mum. we can see her any day, she's had 50 years of mother's days. It is genuinely only fair. I work my bollocks off for DH and DS. If he can't recognise that then fuck the lot of them.

Mothers Day is for your MIL to see her own children, not yours. Sounds like you're away without your DP so bingo, he can see her.

If your DM will be fine with it then don't worry. Your GM has your DM. Your MIL will have DH. If nobody but you normally bothers their arse, that's not your responsibility.

You have your life truly bass akwards.

Stop focusing on mother's day.

Pretend it doesn't exist as such. Stop making a fuss about all the other women in your life and your H's life.

Mother's day is a sham whose only purpose is to pay lip service to the idea that we should honour women by spending millions of pounds on crap and chocolate.

Sit your H down and tell him you expect more of him as a partner and co parent.