Been with Dp nearly 10 years, I already had ds when I met him, ds was 1 when we met. Dp treats him as his own. We also have Dd together.
I never expected nor pushed dp's mum to be grandparent at all. But when I met Dp she didn't have any grandchildren (only have ds and dc now, her partner has grandkids but they barely see them!). She wanted to be an active part in ds's life, pushed ds into calling her nanny from the start (which was a bit strange at the time tbh), encouraging ds to call her partner grandad which again which is again about odd. She's a but of a nightmare in general, telling me how to parent. Telling me to stop ds seeing his dad etc. Been a bit over powering at times.
Anyway, she has had a fairly active part in ds's life.
But I feel things are different now ds is older (11).
She seems to buy Dd stuff but not ds. She comes over with stuff for her but not him. Ds never mentions it but I find he gets a bit triggered behaviour wise when she has stuff.
This is only a very recent issue. She used to come over with things for both of them.
She says ds is difficult to buy for whereas it's easy to get stuff for Dd which I do agree with, girls are easier to buy for but couldn't she just buy him some chocolate or give him a couple quid?
Aibu? I'll probably be told I am as she's not bio grandparent, but she's always pushed being 'nanny'. I didn't push it myself and now it's like this.
I think ds is noticing (he has sen) but not verbalising it! He's started to not want to go over there!
Wwyd?
I spoke to Dp about it. I thought he wound agree with me but he doesn't seem to care! He says ds gets enough from his dad - his dad he hasn't seen in several weeks!!