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To feel annoyed over this gift.

43 replies

stuffedcookie · 06/02/2022 14:03

As part of my Christmas DH got me really nice boot slippers. I threw out my old ones and have worn them every day since I got them.

After a couple of weeks DH remarked on how I had bent the backs of them and that I should be careful how I'm walking. I've been really conscious of it since. He's mentioned it a couple of times and 'joked' he isn't getting me anything nice again as I just 'ruin' things.

On Friday night he mentioned again how the slippers are now all bent out of shape. I apologised and said I don't know what I've done to them and I was quite upset as I know they were expensive. He then dismissively said 'maybe its the sizing'. I checked and they're two sizes too big. DH knows my shoe size and said he wanted to get them and they were all they had in stock so he figured it would be fine as they were boot style and they wouldn't just fall off.

AIBU that he's made out I've had the problem for over a month?

OP posts:
Rangoon · 06/02/2022 15:55

May be best not to breed with Mr Sloppy Slippers. He sounds both stupid and mean.

Marmm · 06/02/2022 15:58

He's an idiot

VimFuego101 · 06/02/2022 15:59

If they're ugg type boots then I don't think there's any way to stop this happening. I take good care of mine and they just do it regardless. It's just the way that style of shoe/ slipper is made.

giveyou2reasons · 06/02/2022 16:10

Yes, he was stupid to buy slippers in the wrong size, but how dare he then blame you when they distort/bend/whatever it is they're doing?! Both things are annoying, and he sounds like a jerk.

KickAssAngel · 06/02/2022 16:16

They're your slippers, you can do what you want with them. Is he usually a micro manager of other people's things?

Daenerys77 · 06/02/2022 16:21

I admire your restraint. I would have thrown the slippers at his head.

luckylavender · 06/02/2022 16:22

@stuffedcookie - I was a tiny bit on DH's side (have a DH who ruins things especially slippers) until you mentioned he'd bought the wrong size. What an ae.

Toanewstart23 · 06/02/2022 16:23

Did YOU not notice two sizes too big?

hangrylady · 06/02/2022 16:31

Put them in a display case so DH can admire their beauty and buy yourself a new pair from primark.

mrsoverall2 · 06/02/2022 16:49

I'd be so angry about this tbh. I'd be burning said slippers and having a word about being a dick to you

Shitandhills · 06/02/2022 16:54

Are the slippers too big for you? I'm confused as to why you'd keep them if they were. So your husband probably thought they were fine too? This is a weird thread.

EmoIsntDead · 06/02/2022 17:07

I'd buy myself a cheap pair that actually fit and never wear his again. But then I can be petty like that.

FlasherMcGruff · 06/02/2022 17:17

Hopefully he’s apologised for monitoring and criticising you for being unable to look after your gifts? It’s entirely his own fault for not bothering to take the time to look for and order a gift that fitted in good time. Sounds like he left it to the last minute and had no choice over size.

BOOTS52 · 06/02/2022 17:20

He sounds like he is very controlling monitoring your slipper wearing to be honest. He knows they were bending out of shape due to being 2 sizes wrong and he did not even tell you that. Now I am older and not as patient as I used to be and am also aware of gas lighting and controlling abusive behaviour I would probably say here you wear them seeing as they are your size and would tell him how dare he keep at me all the time or would just throw them in the fire and buy myself a pair that actually fits. Is he also monitoring other areas of your life. Maybe you should have a go at him continuously over something about his shirt collar or something and see how he likes it. Am peri-meno so am not taking crap from anyone as I used to all my life.

BOOTS52 · 06/02/2022 17:26

Good to see I am not the only one who said would burn them. Look after yourself and do not let him keep at you as it just breaks your spirit. I only learned about abusive behaviour when I came on here and read all the advice and was shocked it was quite normal for someone to emotionally abuse someone to keep them down and in their place. Wish I had stood up for myself back then and told him to feck off as was manipulated badly and went from been a happy bubbly person to a shadow of myself while he portrayed to the public a different persona to what I saw. Call him out on his behaviour and tell him he should have told you about the sizing instead of nagging at you. But slippers would be in the fire.

girafferafferaffe · 06/02/2022 17:50

Jesus I mean slippers are hardly formal wear are they! They all go a bit manky after time! Tell him to get you the right size and to fuck off policing you

laffer · 06/02/2022 17:51

YANBU but it did amuse me that the title of the post under yours was this.

WonderfulYou · 06/02/2022 18:09

I hate when people ruin things quickly by not taking care of them but you don’t sound the sort who’s wrecking them on purpose.
He needs to not get you such an expensive present if he’s going to monitor your every move when you’re wearing them.

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