To not take DS to football

[Ellerehj]

My ex (DS dad) arranged for him to go to football every Saturday morning (without me agreeing but I said I'd take him anyway) he has him alternate weekends.

This Saturday DS said he's really tired and doesn't feel good. He just wants to stay home. So I made sure that's what he wanted and I agreed, we could stay home this week.

I messaged my ex to let him know. His response that I was a bad mother, I was ruining him and that I could expect a custody battle.

This is a total over reaction right? I know he has no rights to take DS away from me simply because he doesn't like me. But everytime he gets annoyed at me he threatens me with a custody battle 😳

I don't think you're a bad mother or ruining your DS, so yes complete over-reaction!

But I also would have taken him to football. My DS is the same age, had football this morning (in the rain!) but if he hadn't turned up he would have been letting his team down. He's also got the rest of the day for downtime, it's only an hour.

Your ex is obviously being an arsehole by threatening a custody battle, but I can see why he thought your son should have gone to football, given that he wasn’t actually unwell. Especially your ex was hoping to watch him. If it was the other way round, and your ex was saying you weren’t going to be able to go and watch your son do an activity that you had arranged, I think you’d feel disappointed and a bit hurt too. That doesn’t justify the vitriol of his response, of course, but I can seen why he was pissed off.