To question this use of social media

[heatherm90]

Pre DC I was an extremely sociable person and had a lot of friends that I would see regularly. I think I still do a good job of seeing people and I keep in touch with everyone.

My Twitter account is public and I noticed last year a friend of mine keeps following my friends and messaging them. I like her, she’s good fun, I see her fairly often and she’s got a busy social life. She’s a couple of years younger than me and has friends from school, uni, previous jobs and various other places.

I noticed she has also requested these friends (8 of them that I’m aware of) on their private instagrams too. She’s quick to like any of their content and post comments but doesn’t acknowledge any of my photos. She’s never met any of them.

I met a friend for lunch a couple of months ago and he asked me what she’s like as she had privately messaged him to ask if he’d go to a concert with her. Another friend of mine mentioned in passing she’d had messages from her, just friendly chat but privately.

Last night another friend messaged me and said he’d had an invite to her birthday party and felt a bit weird as they’ve never met. I have not yet had an invite.

AIBU because social media is meant to be social or am I being single white female-d?

I like when my friends become friends with each other as it makes it easier to see people socially in a group. But this sounds more like she's trying to steal your friends and exclude you.

Sounds like she's trying to Wendy you.
She seriously invited a more or less random guy to a concert?!

I’m old, but this seems weird. I’ve become SM friends with people I’ve met on hen dos/at dinner parties. I’d expect to socialise together, at least initially. I’d also expect the mutual friend to make the arrangements.

Is she involved in a MLM?

If I get friend requests from my next door neighbours dog walkers sister in law it's usually because they are flogging something

@ADialgaAteMyDog

Sounds like she's trying to Wendy you. She seriously invited a more or less random guy to a concert?!

Yes, he posted on Twitter that he was happy this band had a local concert date and she private messaged him asking if he wanted to go together.

I’ve had someone do this to me. It’s really odd and none of my friends actually became friends with her - they thought it was weird too - but she would add anyone I became friends with and start liking and commenting on their posts.

I know for a fact she didn’t know them herself, because I had just moved to a new city 200 miles away and it was all people I was meeting and making friends with there. She wasn’t even a friend really just someone I knew in passing. Never bothered to ask what her goal was but kinda wish I had.