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pregnantmummy22 · 2022-02-05T20:13:17+00:00

My DS two has had a cold for a little while now. He has a wet cough at the moment. It's occasional, not constant. He's had a negative covid test. He's fine in himself, but just sounds really congested and mucusy also when he talks and in general. Since last night, I've noticed when he drinks water or milk he chokes on it a lot and it makes him cough a lot. Does anyone know what this is about ? Usually when you have a cough as an adult, taking a drink makes it better. But in his case, it makes it worse ?? Maybe he's got lots of mucus and it becomes overwhelming ? He's also drooling a lot !

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pregnantmummy22 · 06/02/2022 00:59

For anyone interested, I called 111 back because she had a few bad coughing fits and couldn't catch her breath after. The doc said to go to a and e..

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pregnantmummy22 · 06/02/2022 01:04

Sorry, I meant he.. anyway, the doc said to come in..

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MerchSwyddEfrog · 06/02/2022 01:13

Hope your little one is ok and you are not too long in a &e.

MinnieJackson · 06/02/2022 03:02

Hope he's doing ok, poor thing. I'm up with my 3 year old ds who's got a horrible constant cough. Negative covid test today aswell. We've moved to the sofa now with blankets and tv. Poor boys so tired.

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pregnantmummy22 · 06/02/2022 03:07

Thank you. Sorry to hear your son is also unwell. It sucks !!

We just got home. Apparently he's fine and no signs of anything terrible going on. Just a virus they say....

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WildPoinsettia · 06/02/2022 03:23

In that case, benylin might help shift the mucous. I would avoid dairy products they make my mucous worse (I'm asthmatic). Hot drinks erm, sort of wash it away?! Cold drinks not so much. Hot water is ok if he doesn't like actual hot drinks, you can put a teaspoon of sugar in if he prefers sweet things. Tell him to spit the mucous out if he can. I know it's disgusting but it's honestly better out than in and yes to not lying flat, it's as if too much tries to come out at once if you do and so you wake coughing. It seems counter productive to try to keep mucous in the lungs but when you're trying to sleep that's how it seems to be. Make sure he's drinking enough, it helps to thin the mucous out, a slight dehydration seems to make it thicker and harder to cough up. Sorry to be so graphically gross!

Pembertonrd · 06/02/2022 03:29

@WildPoinsettia. Obviously means warm drinks. Don’t give your dc hot drinks, you’ll burn his mouth.
Sorry, I know you probably realise but when it’s night and you’re tired it’s easy to do silly things.

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pregnantmummy22 · 06/02/2022 09:54

[quote Pembertonrd]@WildPoinsettia. Obviously means warm drinks. Don’t give your dc hot drinks, you’ll burn his mouth.
Sorry, I know you probably realise but when it’s night and you’re tired it’s easy to do silly things.[/quote]
Thank you for the advice.

He's awoken with a fever and the cough sounds really nasty and chesty, but thankfully no breathing or choking issues.

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pregnantmummy22 · 06/02/2022 13:39

I duno guys. My husband is and was really angry with me for going to a and e. But I explained the exact situation to the out of hours GP and he started talking about possible collapsed airway and other scary stuff.

I'm just not sure how to judge it for next time, because by the time the GP had called, DS was sleeping soundly. However he was also sleeping soundly before and then woke up and was really struggling to breathe through a coughing fit. Since we've been back home, the cough was quite bad in the night. Really chesty, but his breathing was fine and the choking hasn't happened again since.

It's hard to judge what the right thing is. I guess I'm still learning, but seeing as GP said it's important to go in, we went...

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Porcupineintherough · 06/02/2022 13:48

Your dh is angry with you for following medical advice? Angry? Is he often angry with you?

As for trusting your own judgement, my experience is this - half the time you take your child to out of hours/a&e they ask you why you've bothered to come (even if your gp or 111 sent you). The other half they ask you why you didnt come in sooner. You're not going to win this one so just go with your gut. Kids are world famous for perking up when they get to the doctors office btw.

Eeiliethya · 06/02/2022 13:52

In the nicest possible way, tell your DH to go fuck himself .

You absolutely did the right thing, the way I see it is you can only make that bad judgement once and the consequences could be severe.

No harm in getting checked!

Eeiliethya · 06/02/2022 14:03

To add also - in terms of judging things next time go with your instinct.

If you're worried get them seen or call 111.

Mines nearly 5 and I'm fairly sure I'm on first name terms with 111 north west at this point 😂.

I once gave my DD a bath, she was probs about 9 month old and she slipped like a slug and swallowed a bit of bath water but it sounded like she really choked on it. I immediately went into panic mode thinking she's aspirated bath water and was suffering secondary drowning. 111 told me to go to A&E and I'm sure the docs thought I was off my rocker but I'd still make the same decision today.

This won't be the first time you'll question "should I make the call" but make the call. Every time.

I hope your DS perks up for you soon, they do know how to freak us out don't they

129orbust · 06/02/2022 14:06

Hi OP very unlikely to be whopping cough at 2 years as the vaccine he had as a baby protests him for a decade.
What did A&E say?

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pregnantmummy22 · 06/02/2022 14:22

@129orbust

Hi OP very unlikely to be whopping cough at 2 years as the vaccine he had as a baby protests him for a decade. What did A&E say?

Thank you. They said it's just a virus and his lungs sound fine.

It's tough to make the call as well when they've had one cold and not really fully recovered and then they seem to go downhill again. Because you wonder if it's a secondary bacterial infection that needs quick treatment or if it's a new virus. That's the million dollar question !

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JugglingJanuary · 06/02/2022 14:45

What's with your DH being angry you followed medical advice?

FFS does he get angry over other things??

About DS, Drs would rather see them lots than you be too scared to take him back. If YOU are worried, take him back. A&E won't mind & DH can go fuck himself.

JugglingJanuary · 06/02/2022 14:49

It's tough to make the call as well when they've had one cold and not really fully recovered and then they seem to go downhill again. Because you wonder if it's a secondary bacterial infection that needs quick treatment or if it's a new virus. That's the million dollar question !

You're not a Dr, you don't need to make any calls. If your toddler isn't well, you take them to see a Dr & if seems serious out if hours, take them to A & E.

Don't hesitate. Let them look at him. They don't always get it right the first time, next time you'll see someone else who hopefully will get it right.

It's scary when they're little & have breathing issues.

Don't be worried about getting help, it's the right thing to do!!

Tee20x · 06/02/2022 14:52

Was going to come on and say chest infection? DD had this and would cough until she vomited. Took her to the doctors who said her lungs sounded crackly and prescribed antibiotics.

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pregnantmummy22 · 06/02/2022 14:59

Thanks so much for the support and advice everyone.

DH is so annoying. I wanted to go by myself last night. I hate going to a and e with him. He is so grumpy there. Just huffing and puffing, making it so much worse.

Next time, I'm going alone. He thinks it was an overreaction and that he was fine.

We've been a three times in the last 6 months in the middle of the night. So I understand it's annoying. But he gets recurrent croup as well and wakes up with stridor at rest and the only advice there is to take them straight to a and e for steroids. It can be really dangerous and I can't do much if it happens in the middle of the night. They won't treat them with steroids unless they have the stridor at rest and how can I control when that starts !!

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pregnantmummy22 · 06/02/2022 15:01

@Tee20x

Was going to come on and say chest infection? DD had this and would cough until she vomited. Took her to the doctors who said her lungs sounded crackly and prescribed antibiotics.

The lungs were ok last night and didn't sound crackly. I'll keep an eye out if things get worse though.

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Tee20x · 06/02/2022 16:38

@pregnantmummy22

Thanks so much for the support and advice everyone.

DH is so annoying. I wanted to go by myself last night. I hate going to a and e with him. He is so grumpy there. Just huffing and puffing, making it so much worse.

Next time, I'm going alone. He thinks it was an overreaction and that he was fine.

We've been a three times in the last 6 months in the middle of the night. So I understand it's annoying. But he gets recurrent croup as well and wakes up with stridor at rest and the only advice there is to take them straight to a and e for steroids. It can be really dangerous and I can't do much if it happens in the middle of the night. They won't treat them with steroids unless they have the stridor at rest and how can I control when that starts !!

This is ridiculous though. Surely he should recognise that it is way better to go to A&E and everything be fine than to not go and risk something bad happening.

So annoying having a partner like that that makes everything seem like it's hard work.