How independent are your DC in their 20s with Autism?

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Hi everyone is it ok if I I ask how independent your DC in their 20s are if they have ASD? It doesn’t even have to be your kids it could be people you just know. The reason why I’m asking is because I have ASD and I’m in my 20s so wanted to hear other peoples experiences of being a young adult with autism.

I think it varies wildly. My DD2 is 19 and in her first year at uni. Fully independent, manages studies, finance, shopping and has sorted out her accommodation for next year independently. She sometimes contacts me on advice on every day adulting kind of things, but once learned, whatever it is stays learned.

I don't think comparing yourself to others will help, it's a huge spectrum.

I have autism, by 25 I had a degree, a full-time job and my own flat, and had previously lived and worked abroad. Now, in my (very) early 30s, I have a senior professional role, a house (with my partner) and kids.

I do struggle immensely with social situations though, and I can't bear ambiguity about plans or changes to routine/previously confirmed plans. For example, on Tuesday I'll want to know what we're doing at the weekend, and my partner's usual response of "we'll see nearer the time" really stresses me.

I'm autistic, moved 200 miles from 'home' to go to Uni at 18, graduated, rented a house, worked, got married, had 2 children, went back to Uni, had another baby (whilst doing my second degree) got a job specific to that degree, worked whilst effectively a single parent as my husband went away to work when child #3 was a week old, got divorced, manage my finances including a mortgage with no financial support from ex.
I'm a bit pants at social situations and it can take me 3 days to make a phone call but I get there eventually.

You can’t compare, just as you can’t compare NT people in their 20’s with each other.

My nephew in his 20’s can’t work, can’t live independently, he is at Uni but has a lot of support and extra time and still struggles. His social interaction is extremely limited, though he has had a girlfriend.

My friends son age 20 is still non verbal and needs full time care.

Some people who I work with have ASD two of them live independently, and have had a relationship in the past (not with each other) and both have a child, one of them does not have custody. They are older than 20’s though. Another in their 20’s has gone from living with parents to a marriage so never lived independently. Another, (late 20’s) lives alone, has never had a relationship and is very successful in their job, they are exceptional at what they do.

I'm in my 20s with ASD. I own a house, a business, have a husband and baby. I'm totally independent from my parents.

I'm autistic and worked full time from 16, went to college, left home at 18, house-shared, holidayed abroad and managed my money/bills without any support from anyone.

My autistic brother worked full time from 17, had a girlfriend, managed his own money, drove, and left home at 24 once he'd saved a house deposit.

My 13-year-old autistic daughter will (I hope) stay home for a little longer, but I expect her to live entirely independently.

My autistic son has language and learning difficulties, so I expect (and am happy) to support him indefinitely.