Friend full of Drama and catastrophising

[Bringsexyback]

What would you do if you were the only friend that this person has that kind of tries to make them look objectively at things ?
Have known this person for nearly 20 years and during that time her life is literally just swung from one crisis to another and unfortunately there’s been periods in my life and that’s also been the same for me but I am desperately trying to live a calmer happier existence.
I noticed today that she literally only ever calls me when something is going wrong there’s never any good news ever today’s episode doesn’t even involve her it’s her partners child absolutely nothing to do with her and yet there we are getting involved in getting into the details and I just wanted to hang up the phone.

Maybe that's when you say got to go because of X reason and then hang up. You could distance yourself a bit if you want to keep being friends. But you can't change people.

End the call saying, ‘sorry Sarah, that all sounds difficult. I need to go now but let’s catch up when you’re in a better place.’

End the call saying, ‘sorry Sarah, that all sounds difficult. I need to go now but let’s catch up when you’re in a better place.’

I like that, i just feel like she needs to know what the issue is, weve had spells where weve not spoken before and tbh when ive had issues, serious problems she wasn’t really there for me

“I think I hear your doorbell OP.” Everytime she rings.

That sounds very draining. Spend less time in contact with her however you can make that happen.

I had a ‘friend’ like that. It was soo draining and soo fucking boring that it got to the point that I just stopped answering the phone to her half the time. Other times if she went on too long about yet another petty problem I would just turn my phone off mid convo lol. Sounds mean but I literally could not cope with her bullshit anymore, and telling her straight not to phone so much ( approx 3 times per week) only worked for a while and after a couple of weeks normal service would resume.

@PinkSyCo
Do you know how she is now ? I suppose it’s her kids i worry for, if I’m not there to kind of be the voice of reason. But we are just so far apart in terms of our worlds it’s absolutely ludicrous we have nothing in common any more such different stages of our lives as well which I know can work if you have maybe fun together, or make each other laugh, it’s enjoyable company for either party but it definitely isn’t for me and to be honest I don’t think she gets a lot out of it.

I have a relative like this - always telling what terrible occurrence has occurred and which often involves nobody that either of us know personally.

Sometimes, I try and steer the conversation elsewhere, "so, what's going on with your life?" or "this all sounds terrible for [the people involved] but what about you? do you have anything more positive going on elsewhere in your life to take your mind off things?" or I ask a direct question about something specific in their life"

Stop answering your phone.

You are an earhole, nothing else.

People like this are awful for your MH.

Avoid.