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SillyBud · 2022-02-05T16:05:53+00:00

Just pondering on the person who win the 109 million last night and think that yesterday they were just like us-stressed about so many things that could be eased/abolished by money-mortgages, rent, work,health and fitness,appearance... Can you actually imagine waking up today to discover you are 109 million richer and free from so much the rest of us are prisoner to?

DdraigGoch · 06/02/2022 16:17

I must be worth £60k or so (the equity in my house mostly).

I am of course happier than someone who hasn't got a bean.

Someone living mortgage-free has fewer cares than I do.

Once you get beyond that though, you start running out of problems you can spend your way out of. Is someone worth £100m really happier than someone worth £1m? I doubt it.

DdraigGoch · 06/02/2022 16:21

I also don't get why people here keep referring to celebs as a reason as to why money doesn't make you happy-I don't see any of them packing up their jet set lifestyles and moving to a caravan park or a council house in Wigan.

No, but you hear of their breakdowns, addiction issues etc.

lockthedoor36 · 06/02/2022 16:26

No, but you hear of their breakdowns, addiction issues etc

yea but the media love to exaggerate these stories. Regardless I've yet to hear of 1 who packed it all up to improve their problems. Likewise I'd rather have my breakdown on the floor of my mansion than in a trailer park.

lockthedoor36 · 06/02/2022 16:32

Is someone worth £100m really happier than someone worth £1m? I doubt it

100 million I'd be happier knowing that if I died my kids would be secure for life and if I got ill I'd have the best care etc. Same if my kids were ill. The guaranteed security would make me and many others much happier.

Yes a million is a lovely sum and I rent and am skint so don't have it handy but to say it would offer near the security of 100 million is nonsense, a million is not lot these days especially with kids and ageing parents to look after etc. I am finding the need to diminish the benefits of a large fortune here laughable.

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 06/02/2022 16:42

It'd make me very happy! I'd make sure all my family and friends were comfortable and give plenty to charities. I'd have a great time never ever having to worry about money ever again. 99.99% of my worries are money related.

I understand when people say that having money doesn't stop you or someone you hold dear getting cancer. And no it doesn't but I'd have money to provide the best end of life care and wouldn't be worrying about how I can provide care while working.

Financial security would give me and my nearest and dearest the freedom to live our best lives! How could that not make you happy?

If you don't think money would make you happy don't play lotto. Simple.

DdraigGoch · 06/02/2022 16:53

@lockthedoor36

Is someone worth £100m really happier than someone worth £1m? I doubt it

100 million I'd be happier knowing that if I died my kids would be secure for life and if I got ill I'd have the best care etc. Same if my kids were ill. The guaranteed security would make me and many others much happier.

Yes a million is a lovely sum and I rent and am skint so don't have it handy but to say it would offer near the security of 100 million is nonsense, a million is not lot these days especially with kids and ageing parents to look after etc. I am finding the need to diminish the benefits of a large fortune here laughable.

It wouldn't be unheard of for your kids to go completely off the rails in those circumstances.

DdraigGoch · 06/02/2022 16:54

By which I mean that knowing that you've got a large inheritance coming or that the Bank of Mum and Dad has no withdrawal limits can result in one becoming a degenerate playboy.

lockthedoor36 · 06/02/2022 16:56

It wouldn't be unheard of for your kids to go completely off the rails in those circumstances

kids can go off the rails in any background so I don't see your point when in actual fact kids have much more chance of going off the rails in poverty. Crime rates are generally higher in high poverty/social housing areas.
I live in a rented room in a council estate too and grew up in a council estate so no snobbery either before I get that thrown my way.

Rapunzel91 · 06/02/2022 17:13

I would definitely be happy and content! As others have said with money you have access to private healthcare, don't have to be on long NHS waiting list etc. I love the NHS but it's so underfunded, understaffed and overstretched I would definitely go private if eg I needed surgery.
My family is all abroad so money would allow me to see my family more, instantly happier.
I wouldn't need to work, I could fill my days however I liked and I'd definitely enjoy that. Many people often comment they would be bored without work but I don't understand that. I definitely wouldn't miss sitting at a desk 9-5. I could travel, exercise, see family/friends, renovate more, work for pleasure instead of need, study, spend more quality time with DH and kids. It would be lovely!

Rapunzel91 · 06/02/2022 17:18

And i would certainly be very happy making my family financially comfortable!
And have a say in were money was going, i.e. giving large amounts to causes I choose. I would love to give to community sports clubs that the kids are a part of or new books/supplies for the primary school. Having worked in mental health I would without a doubt give large amounts to mental health wards that are one of the most underfunded areas of the nhs.aybe sponsor students through university through a grant? Oh this is a fun game!

5128gap · 06/02/2022 17:30

@shilohh

There's 3 types of problems.

problems which can be solved by throwing money at it.

problems that can't be solved with money but can be eased / reduced / make life a bit more easier.

problems where no amount of money in the world can solve.

Where do most of your problems lie? Get rid of problem no.1s and ease all probs in category no.2. You're left with dealing with no.3 problems which is part of human life anyway.

I can't think if any that are in category 3. Genuinely. Interested in other people's examples.

Furbulousnous · 06/02/2022 17:38

That amount of money would
Change forever your relationships. If I win that sum, I would genuinely set up a foundation and give most of it away.

Furbulousnous · 06/02/2022 17:39

Imagine burdening your children with that wealth, how would you keep their lives ‘normal’?

lockthedoor36 · 06/02/2022 17:43

I can't think if any that are in category 3. Genuinely. Interested in other people's examples

something like a huge regret from the past one lingers on, so I met a person on holiday a decade ago. Really liked him and he seemed interested but for reasons at the time I couldn't pursue it and left without getting his details. To this day I bitterly regret it and no amount of money can undo that regret.

Others would be getting badly dumped once by a man I still dream of, he was my 1st love, we met at 21 and to this day I am still not over him, well over a decade later. He got a chronic disease too and oh it's a long story fill of pain and sadness...But we parted on very bad terms and he shunned me, Again yes I could get counselling etc and I did at the time but no amount off cash and counselling can stop my pain over him.

Others would be of a terrible row in my family amongst siblings which has left the family shattered, it is far from a trivial row and I have my regrets over my actions in it but again no money could fix it.

For me I think the terrible problems that can't be fixed by cash are things that happened in the past and the marks they leave on us. As the saying goes no man is rich enough that they can buy back their past. Of course tragedies can't be fixed by money really either.

BraveGoldie · 06/02/2022 17:50

@DdraigGoch

I also don't get why people here keep referring to celebs as a reason as to why money doesn't make you happy-I don't see any of them packing up their jet set lifestyles and moving to a caravan park or a council house in Wigan.

No, but you hear of their breakdowns, addiction issues etc.

But you hear about these because they are celebrities who are reported on. First of all, fame is different from money. Fame Fucks with your head way more than money. There are Loads of rich non-famous people who aren't having breakdowns! Second, the media loves to report these stories, so they get way more attention than the many celebrities living a happy, stable life. Third, the fact some celebrities have troubles doesn't mean that more celebrities than non-celebrities do! Non-celebrities have break down / addiction issues all the time too - they just aren't reported (and possibly exaggerated) in newspapers.

lockthedoor36 · 06/02/2022 17:50

Imagine burdening your children with that wealth, how would you keep their lives ‘normal

so would you rather burden them with poverty? and you can keep it as normal as you want, many of the Euromillions winners remain anonymous and we never hear a peep from them.

BraveGoldie · 06/02/2022 17:54

For anyone still wondering about money affecting health:

www.bma.org.uk/media/2084/health-at-a-price-2017.pdf

lockthedoor36 · 06/02/2022 17:57

Second, the media loves to report these stories, so they get way more attention than the many celebrities living a happy, stable life

this and many celebs feed into the '''I'm in rehab...I'm having a breakdown'' solely to get attention and dance to the media's tune. I recall Jonathan Reyes Myers mother dying and he was sitting on the street with a bottle of whisky akin to a homeless person on all the papers.

It was clearly all set up but I thought it was so tasteless as he was using his mother's death to publicise himself. Who the fuck gets a bottle of whisky and sits on the street when their parent dies? Such attention seeking. Britney Spears and Princess Diana are others who colluded with the paps so as to get attention and yet look like they were struggling when really they were playing the game. In Diana's case though she eventually played with fire too much and got badly burnt.

5128gap · 06/02/2022 17:58

@lockthedoor36

I can't think if any that are in category 3. Genuinely. Interested in other people's examples

something like a huge regret from the past one lingers on, so I met a person on holiday a decade ago. Really liked him and he seemed interested but for reasons at the time I couldn't pursue it and left without getting his details. To this day I bitterly regret it and no amount of money can undo that regret.

Others would be getting badly dumped once by a man I still dream of, he was my 1st love, we met at 21 and to this day I am still not over him, well over a decade later. He got a chronic disease too and oh it's a long story fill of pain and sadness...But we parted on very bad terms and he shunned me, Again yes I could get counselling etc and I did at the time but no amount off cash and counselling can stop my pain over him.

Others would be of a terrible row in my family amongst siblings which has left the family shattered, it is far from a trivial row and I have my regrets over my actions in it but again no money could fix it.

For me I think the terrible problems that can't be fixed by cash are things that happened in the past and the marks they leave on us. As the saying goes no man is rich enough that they can buy back their past. Of course tragedies can't be fixed by money really either.

Thanks thats interesting to read. I suppose we all have things that can't be undone, but for me these recede when my present is good. I think it might be easier (for me) to push those thoughts aside if I had limitless capacity to distract myself and create new memories, so I'd put those as a category 2 for myself I think.

lockthedoor36 · 06/02/2022 18:09

Thanks thats interesting to read. I suppose we all have things that can't be undone, but for me these recede when my present is good. I think it might be easier (for me) to push those thoughts aside if I had limitless capacity to distract myself and create new memories, so I'd put those as a category 2 for myself I think

yes agreed I think that whilst money can't take these pains away or undo the past it certainly could make them more bearable if you didn't have to work long hours in a stressful job and be worried about no pension etc. Because it is the accumulation of everything that makes it all the more difficult I suppose so by enriching the present these unfixable problems can become somewhat less significant.

Whilst I don't think money can leave you to a place of 24/7 euphoria I do agree with the op that it can make all aspects of life improved in some way or other. I just don't get the prevailing idea in this thread that this money wouldn't be so great or any better than a million when of course it would be.

Furbulousnous · 06/02/2022 18:13

‘ Imagine burdening your children with that wealth, how would you keep their lives ‘normal

so would you rather burden them with poverty?’

No, but my children aren’t living in poverty. And I would like them to know the value of working for sometime ing you want or need. So If I won £109 mill I would keep a bit amd give the majority of it away. Like £105 + away.

lockthedoor36 · 06/02/2022 18:16

No, but my children aren’t living in poverty

well then count yourself lucky because others here don't have the same advantages.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 06/02/2022 18:17

@Furbulousnous

Imagine burdening your children with that wealth, how would you keep their lives ‘normal’?

Normal life working a 9-5 is overrated to be honest. Money would make life more interesting.

lockthedoor36 · 06/02/2022 18:20

Normal life working a 9-5 is overrated to be honest. Money would make life more interesting

this mn is a funny place. Threads fill of people bemoaning not having stable pensions, not having a house, hating their jobs, not seeing their kids enough.... and then a thread full of people bemoaning the prospect of wealth.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 06/02/2022 18:27

@lockthedoor36

Normal life working a 9-5 is overrated to be honest. Money would make life more interesting

this mn is a funny place. Threads fill of people bemoaning not having stable pensions, not having a house, hating their jobs, not seeing their kids enough.... and then a thread full of people bemoaning the prospect of wealth.

Absolutely. I don't hate my job but I certainly wouldn't hesitate to leave if I could afford to. Being financially secure for life, able to do whatever I wanted... can't see any downsides. Yes it doesn't erase all your problems, but those problems exist whether you're poor or rich.