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to think a large sum of money would give you life long happiness we can't even imagine

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SillyBud · 05/02/2022 16:05

Just pondering on the person who win the 109 million last night and think that yesterday they were just like us-stressed about so many things that could be eased/abolished by money-mortgages, rent, work,health and fitness,appearance...

Can you actually imagine waking up today to discover you are 109 million richer and free from so much the rest of us are prisoner to?

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stuffedcookie · 05/02/2022 16:08

I don't think it brings you happiness as such but it does bring you options.

Lately when I've been fantasising about lottery wins, I've been thinking of a friend who is struggling with her mental health just now. Money wouldn't cure her but a large sum of money would mean she didn't have to push herself through a stressful day at work and have access to counselling with no waiting lists. It wouldn't rid her of her problems but some things would be easier to handle with unlimited funds.

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SillyBud · 05/02/2022 16:10

I don't think it brings you happiness as such but it does bring you options

true but much of her unhappiness is often down to options or rather our lack of access to them.

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LubaLuca · 05/02/2022 16:12

I imagine all my stresses would disappear if I had that much money, and in fact none of my stresses are caused by money worries. I'd love to be in a position where I never had to do anything but please myself.

Kbyodjs · 05/02/2022 16:12

I think that sum of money would cause differences in my friendships and family relationships which would make me unhappy after the initial enjoyment. I’d be very happy with something along the lines of £500 000 so it’s enough to pay off my mortgage and give us money to do what we want to our home. That would essentially solve all my financial worries without bringing other worries with it.

QuiteAtALoss · 05/02/2022 16:14

Many of my challenges wouldn't be solved with more money, unfortunately. Some, perhaps, but I've thought about this too, and I'm not convinced other problems wouldn't crop up. I wouldn't say no if offered the money, though!

Teeeefs · 05/02/2022 16:14

I have money. Not £109m but enough for nice houses and cars and holiday and to never have to worry about the boiler breaking down t the car needing repairs.

I still have family with cancer, I’ve still had a shitty time medically, I still have a lovely husband whose life is dictated by his mental health.

Yeah, I don’t lie awake worrying about the heating bill, but money doesn’t absolve anyone of all the worries that many people endure.

ouch321 · 05/02/2022 16:18

I was thinking about what I'd do with the ticket. Probably first I'd photo it and then grab a sandwich bag to put it in for fear of spilling a drink on it. I think you then have to take it to their HQ so I'd prob call a taxi for fear of getting my handbag nicked on the tube. I'd be very paranoid until the tickets got into the hand of the official.

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SillyBud · 05/02/2022 16:20

I was thinking about what I'd do with the ticket. Probably first I'd photo it and then grab a sandwich bag to put it in for fear of spilling a drink on it. I think you then have to take it to their HQ so I'd prob call a taxi for fear of getting my handbag nicked on the tube. I'd be very paranoid until the tickets got into the hand of the official

be surreal wouldn't it?

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MasterBeth · 05/02/2022 16:23

£109 million would be beyond life-changing for you or your family. Your personal prosperity would be guaranteed for generations, with money to spare.

So now you’d have tens of millions of pounds in a world where many people are in need. I couldn’t feel happy knowing that. So suddenly your “job” becomes using your wealth for good, or else you’re a pretty terrible person.

I’m sure it’s not nearly as stressful as being poor, but I don’t think you could spend the rest of your life sipping cocktails by your Caribbean pool without feeling like a total shit.

scattercushion17 · 05/02/2022 16:23

I'd start a foundation and quietly do some really good things to help people and the environment.

I have a fairly low key life. I think the worst prlart would never really being able to trust someone new in your life fully again. I don't think you'd know their intentions.

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SillyBud · 05/02/2022 16:23

stressed about so many things that could be eased/abolished by money-mortgages, rent, work,health and fitness,appearance

sorry a crucial 1 I could add to this would be old age and pension. It can be a horrendous time for financially for many so to know those years are secure are nice. Especially as we are living longer than ever.

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SillyBud · 05/02/2022 16:25

I think the worst part would never really being able to trust someone new in your life fully again

the same is true for people you already know

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Savingpeoplehuntingthings · 05/02/2022 16:26

It wouldn't help with health issues and some other problems no but it would take financial stress away from everything.
No more worrying about how much stuff costs, can I afford to put the heating on, can I have a bath today instead of a wash, can dd go on the school trip etc etc.
Children's futures secure. It would help so much.
I'd take £100,000. That would pay off the mortgage and the debts so free up money to actually live life.

writingonpaper · 05/02/2022 16:29

Having money is like going through life with a force field around you. Many of life's problems will never affect you, and of those that do, you have the means to buy the resources to either resolve or mitigate them.
And even for the problems that can't be fixed or reduced, you can at least make them easier to cope with - such as affording the best equipment or support if you become disabled, the best therapy if you suffer a trauma.

Having money is just good.

UnsuitableHat · 05/02/2022 16:32

I’d certainly like to give it a try, but don’t think money alone would bring life long happiness

RagzRebooted · 05/02/2022 16:33

@Kbyodjs

I think that sum of money would cause differences in my friendships and family relationships which would make me unhappy after the initial enjoyment. I’d be very happy with something along the lines of £500 000 so it’s enough to pay off my mortgage and give us money to do what we want to our home. That would essentially solve all my financial worries without bringing other worries with it.
Same here. I often fantasise about lottery wins and then think about how stressful it would be to win so much that you have to share it. If I won millions I would want to help my sisters out, then we'd feel we'd have to give money to DH's siblings, but two of them have drugs issues. So that's complicated. Then I have other sisters who I don't see and a father I barely talk to... It all gets too stressful just as a fantasy!

Less than a million and I wouldn't have to think about giving any away, just buy a house, put a bit away for putting DCs through uni and giving DH a pension as he doesn't have a workplace one.

kittenkipper · 05/02/2022 16:33

All of my problems would be improved if not entirely solved with money. Even health issues- I'd be able to pay for private care. All of my problems solved. Sigh.

Caramelvanillafudge · 05/02/2022 16:35

@Teeeefs

I have money. Not £109m but enough for nice houses and cars and holiday and to never have to worry about the boiler breaking down t the car needing repairs.

I still have family with cancer, I’ve still had a shitty time medically, I still have a lovely husband whose life is dictated by his mental health.

Yeah, I don’t lie awake worrying about the heating bill, but money doesn’t absolve anyone of all the worries that many people endure.

Sorry to hear about your family but it’s not really an accurate comparison.

Ask someone if they’d rather have (say) their dad or a large sue of money and they’d choose their dad.

Tell someone they are going to loose their dad: would they rather be poor or rich.

No one would choose poor. No one.

Oh, and the biggest impact on life expectancy? Poverty.

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SillyBud · 05/02/2022 16:35

I think for me the great stress lifter would be work as it's stressful.

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Caramelvanillafudge · 05/02/2022 16:37

Same, @SillyBud

I also just don’t enjoy it as much any more. I’d love not to do it. I wonder if lockdown gave me a glimpse into another life.

Youdoyoutoday · 05/02/2022 16:39

Someone I used to work with used to say money can't buy you happiness but it is far more comfortable to cry in an Audi than on a bike.

If I won £109 million, a hell of a lot of that would be going to various charities.

Waddlegoose · 05/02/2022 16:40

I’m sure some of the programs following lottery winners have shown they are unhappy and have worse mental health than before the win.

Flip side there must be lottery winners who are happy. I fantasise about winning and giving lots of it away. I do not need 100 million, could happily give away 50 million spilt into 250k or 500k for various people and it would make more of a difference to more people.

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SillyBud · 05/02/2022 16:40

Yea I do it solely for the cash but would leave tomorrow in a heartbeat if I could.

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CatWithARabbit · 05/02/2022 16:41

If you buy your ticket online and win a huge amount, does it just get paid into your account same as if you win £3.80? 😂. Or do you get a phone call?

tiredanddangerous · 05/02/2022 16:48

Imagine opening up your banking app to discover your balance is 100 million Grin