Hi, first time poster here after seeing a piece in the daily mail, I thought you’d be a good place to ask.
I’m a single mother with an 8 year old son. I co-parent with his father when we get on but there’s been times when he’s been violent even when we haven’t been together, this is out in the open between our families and I’ve worked with a local women’s service to build my boundaries and confidence. Ex and his family are still fairly involved in our lives.
After another attack when ex was staying, I asked him to leave. That week after he’d left my son had an angry meltdown, he’s possibly asd and these sometimes happen after school where he masks.
During the angry meltdown my son went to punch me, he’s a very big 8 year old and almost already stronger than me, I instantly reacted and shut my son out of the room I was in, I was sat with my back to the door to keep him out and unsure of what to do but I couldn’t risk him hitting me, my son then with his anger kicked a hole in the door. Eventually he calmed down and neither of us were hurt other than the hole in the door. I informed his teacher, I also called my family member to speak to my son about it all and all was ok, he was banned from his iPad etc and had consequences.
Now, his dad became aware of this and has started saying that I “locked” our son out of the room, I didn’t we don’t have locks, also almost gloating and using it against me that this happened when he wasn’t around and has never happened before. Now ex’s mother is saying that im not such a wonderful mother after all etc and again with the “she locked him out of a room”. Im beginning to doubt myself and wonder if I did the wrong thing and if this is normal or not? The only thing that’s making me feel I did the right thing was that his teacher hasn’t had any concerns about it, even after speaking to my son and him telling her what happened. I just don’t know what to think anymore.