Dd has recently been diagnosed with autism at 15. She has self harmed in the past and struggled with school. Her anxiety can look like bad behaviour to the uninitiated. Confrontational behaviour will cause her to meltdown.
I've asked school to implement some positive strategies such as letting her calm down when she gets agitated, or giving her a calm place to go. I've spoken to the SENDCO and they say all the right things. She often school avoids because school is so distressing for her.
Today she was excluded.
She was told she couldn't sit in her usual seat in the alternative learning area because another student was in there. This caused her to meltdown and run away to the toilets distressed. When she emerged, she was spoken to by the deputy head who told her to go to lesson. Dd usually works in the alternative learning area if she can't face lessons. Another teacher suggested they go for a walk instead but the DH insisted she speak to him.
He was speaking too quickly for Dd to process (she has cognitive processing issues as well as autism) and she needed to calm down. She asked him to stop talking and he followed her to the toilet block and knocked on the door when she ran inside. She shouted 'Shut up!' In distress and has been excluded.
I'm exhausted. I'm a teacher and my job is full on anyway. I have so many appointments for Dd and I know I've got another fight ahead.