I employed a man for nigh on 8 years. We got on well but He had a tendency to try and boss me around and was quite nosey with customers and a bit gossipy. There was never any fall out. The pandemic came, closed the public part of the business during LD and I ran the show in the background with employees furloughed . I was crazy busy . He came in one day during furlough and just arrived out of nosiness - could have offered to lend a hand even to make a cuppa and didnt. I was a bit annoyed at the poppin in and surveying visit as I was on the point of tears with the stress but hey no biggy. All employees came back when we reopened. he stayed on for a few months then handed in his notice. he had had a crucial role in the bizz - told me he was leaving as
wanted to do a course. No bother. I was a bit upset at the start as he was a friend too but realised it was better for the company and the more i thought about it the more relieved i was that he was leaving.
Course gets cancelled due to Covid.he needed a letter to get on another course but had to be unemployed. he asked me for it. I absolutely do not lie/ very ethical in all govt. Business etc etc. Felt I couldnt say no as he was a good employee to me for 8 yrs. And maybe i owed him that for reliability etc etc
I also have a very enjoyable part time job in addition to the business which I do for extra money which he knew about for years. So here is the deal ex employee is now temping at my part time job. he asked me for a reference. I gave him a lovely one of course so has started there. I am so upset. I mean ackward!!!. The new job carries in it personal confidential information which is not shared.i hate his nosiness .i hate the fact he has access to this information now.I just dont know how to handle it. I love the anonymity of my little job and sick at the thought of the break room. Part of me thinks so what and thats true but another is I just cant face it. To note im a good deal higher level than the temp job .
I am in no way his boss. The thing i do love is the non boss nature of the part time job. Im just an employee and the other staff are my friends and love them all.
Like its just so ackward. So aibu to feel like this. I go from being angry / sad/ telling my self to not be so silly. Its literally ruined my weekend. Aaargh !!!