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Do women find it harder to wake up than men?

39 replies

Tiredandgroggy · 04/02/2022 14:02

Finish an argument for me!

DH springs up in the morning, 6 or 7 hours sleep and he feels absolutely fine to get on with the day.

I go to bed earlier & still struggle to get up - I need at least 8 hours, and even then I feel very foggy and borderline ill getting up. It takes me a good hour to come round. I’ve always been this way, I don’t think it’s a health issue.

Thinking about it, all of my past boyfriends have been the same - needed less sleep & seem to find waking up less bother. More energetic.

AIBU?

OP posts:
BrandNewFor2022 · 04/02/2022 14:03

Opposite here!

I don't find it easy to get up, but I do because I have to.

DH drags himself out of bed as late as he possibly can and really struggles.

PatriciaHolm · 04/02/2022 14:04

Opposite here. i think it's a person thing, not a male/female thing.

AppleKatie · 04/02/2022 14:05

I think this is a horses for courses thing not a gender thing.

It also can change over time. Pre-DC (and unitil eldest was 3) I really struggled. Now, I’m often awake before my alarm.

itwasntaparty · 04/02/2022 14:06

Opposite here. DH is a PITA getting out of bed, makes it sounds like its a complete trauma. I get up before my alarm most days.

Nomoreusernames1244 · 04/02/2022 14:06

Thinking about it, all of my past boyfriends have been the same - needed less sleep & seem to find waking up less bother. More energetic

The common denominator here is not their sex, it’s you. You find mornings difficult, by comparison your partners don’t.

It’s not a man vs woman thing at all. Some people get up early, some don’t.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 04/02/2022 14:07

DH needs more sleep than me. He also sleeps through that wakes me... child getting g up for the toilet, noises outside, bomb going off... (he did actually sleep through a bomb going off once!)

OfstedOffred · 04/02/2022 14:07

Not in my fucking house, no.

DH is a pain in the arse to get out of bed in the morning.

Arbeity · 04/02/2022 14:08

Nope. My ex would hit snooze forever and my current partner is similar to me. Somedays we might bounce put of bed ready to face the day and others it takes 5 hits of snooze and a bucket of coffee before feeling halt alive

FlibbertyGiblets · 04/02/2022 14:09

When the children were babies and toddlers I was like a coiled spring. That faded over time, nowadays I don't go from sleep to 60mph in a fingersnap, more like a yawn and a stretch.

skgnome · 04/02/2022 14:12

I’m with you
My OH goes to bed later than me and wakes up fresh and I’m a good mood
It takes me a good half hour to start to feel reasonable human, and I’m cranky
My OH considers 6-7 hours a reasonable amount of sleep - I need a minimum of 8… ideally 9 to function
But probably more down to personality

MiddleClassProblem · 04/02/2022 14:13

Neither of us spring up but wake me up even in REM and ask me a question, I can give you a decent answer. Wake DH in in light nap mode and you’ll get a nonsensical answer, silence or noises.

Didioverstep · 04/02/2022 14:14

Nope I have to kick him out of bed and he gets a full night. I do the kids jight waking as breath feeding.

ForeverSingle881 · 04/02/2022 14:14

I think it's you. I'm up at the cracks of dawn regardless of how much sleep I've had. Partner needs about 4 snoozes on his alarm before he gets up and definitely sleeps more than me.

ShittyFingers · 04/02/2022 14:15

Nope, my ex was a right lazy bastard, used to set 6 alarms and would still be snoring his stupid head off at lunch time.

I get up on time because I’m an adult. I don’t find it easy but tough shit

Arabellla · 04/02/2022 14:18

No, I love to get a good 8-9 hours a day if I can but if I have to wake up with 6-7 hours sleep I’m perfectly fine.

DH does function on little sleep but that’s because he’s a bit of an insomniac/phone addict.

BobHadBitchTits · 04/02/2022 14:18

Opposite here. I'm always up before my husband.

Namenic · 04/02/2022 14:21

I need less sleep than DH and get up earlier. Same with my parents. I don’t think it is sex dependent.

Flowersandbread · 04/02/2022 14:21

I agree with others that's its not a gender thing, just a natural thing

I'm a definite morning person, wide awake and happy at 5am (bed at 9/930pm), dh has to be up at 6 for work but hates it, if left to his own devices he'd sleep in until 8. He regularly naps to.

MrsSugar · 04/02/2022 14:25

Opposite here ! My DH struggles badly to get up in the morning. always has and even worse now we have a baby. I get up and crack on because I have to. I can’t even tell u how irritating it is watching a grown man stoat around with his eyes shut or sit at a table with his eyes shut as if he hasn’t slept for a week !!!

heyitsthistle · 04/02/2022 14:28

Definitely the opposite here. I am raring to go, DH could sleep for hours if I let him.

Previous BF got up easily. Wouldn't mind a lie in, but he always had energy.

Previous previous BF was a teenager. Need I say more?

RavenclawDiadem · 04/02/2022 14:28

Underactive thyroid? Seriously. get it checked.

Just10moreminutesplease · 04/02/2022 14:30

My DH finds getting up much easier than me. My older female relatives all seem to have started waking earlier and earlier as they’ve aged though (not through choice, my grandma is bitterly nostalgic for a sleep in!).

Quornflakegirl · 04/02/2022 14:31

Not here, dh cannot wake up and when he finally does it takes him over an hour to function normally. I can jump out of bed and get on with things.

Kanfuzed123 · 04/02/2022 14:33

I’m with you OP, I just always assumed i have high sleep needs, lol. I’m definitely a night owl not an early bird.

Chely · 04/02/2022 14:34

I'm good on 6-7 hours sleep, dh needs around 9. If he gets enough sleep he is very much a morning person, I am not a morning person but if I need to be up I will be up and doing straight away. He will not do anything for anybody until he's had a brew, I will have had the kids sorted and a couple of jobs done then reward myself with a brew.