To ask the noisy obnoxious pair next to me to be quiet at hospital?

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Or go to the midwives and ask them to sort it out?

Her partner is burping like a pig and they are arguing about her going to a mother and baby unit? He wants to bond with the baby she wants to stay in the unit. The conversation is so humiliating to hear. She was kicked out of hospital for being drunk but said she wants a bottle of wine to partner. She needs support but I really don't want to hear this. She is talking SO loud. Can I go and tell the midwives without sounding like a whinge?

I'm so exhausted and sick I think I'm being irritable and emotional

These descriptions of antenatal and maternity wards make me think of a boarding house from some Dicken’s novel. Waifs and strays wandering in and out, people really let down by society, totally inappropriate communal living.

It’s 2022, how is this still going on?!

Good luck op, hope things improve some way soon.

They have put me into my own room and they agree his behaviour is awful

I think they are in between a rock and a hard place as

1. Its an obvious addiction
2. She clearly has LD and so does he

So it's easier to just stick us in side rooms away from this. I've just cried my eyes out with relief to be in peace. I am in so much pain

How is it going now? You could text your husband and get him to phone them and he can have a frank discussion with whoever is in charge. I know whenever I complained in hospital as an outpatient I asked reception to speak to the duty manager. Don’t know if such a post exists but someone in a suit always turned up, took me into an office to take details of the complaint and contacted me later in writing. Your husband could do that. He is concerned about his wife, why are the staff not constantly monitoring this mans behaviour and if they can’t he wants his wife moved to a safer place. Let him deal with it, you are too close in my opinion.

Just seen your last post. Well done and enjoy the peace!!

Oh glad you are finally getting some peace. It's insane. The man should absolutely be removed I don't know why it's so difficult! That poor poor baby! Wishing you all the best OP.

Glad they have given you a side room and you are getting some peace at last.

I really don't understand why it seems so difficult to eject visitors or partners from a maternity ward if they are behaving like arses.

I remember a woman like this when my DS was born almost 12 years ago. She kept leaving him alone so she could go smoke outside and she never seemed to stop talking either on the phone or to the endless visitors she had. She hadn’t brought any nappies with her so sent her DP out for some and he returned with size 4… She was also loudly stating how desperate she was for a few cans. I felt really sorry for the baby, I’ve often wondered what his life has been like.

Definitely complain about the noise. It can be all too much when you’re postnatal and already struggling, I completely sympathise.

Glad you have a room, OP. Sleep tight.

Tell the staff. The patients need peace quiet and sleep.

At the very least, they can exclude the noisy oaf BF.

You have my full sympathy, I am glad you are in a quiet and private room now. My DD was born nearly 13 years ago but I still vividly remember the horrible presence of a loud and obnoxious bloke next to me while I was waiting to be induced. It really irritated me that he freely used the loo meant for patients because he couldn't be bothered to walk further to the visitor loos. I hope that you will get pain relief and focus now on yourself and your baby.

The midwives need to know all this, so well done for raising it. They will tell SS the man is trying to stop her using the unit.

She needs support, as does the baby. Sound like they are at risk of the baby being taken into care. Sad situation.

Why aren’t the hospital safeguarding this baby if the mother is asking for alcohol surely this is a case for ss to be assessing whether she’s fit enough to be looking after the child when they go home ?

Least you can escape from this awful situ op , the baby involved can’t !

And some trusts are patting themselves on the back that they are going to allow partners to stay 24/7 soon 😬 can't think of anything worse. I got stuck with a plonker neighbour last time and yes it was much better once the boyfriend went at the end of visiting, though she was then on her phone all night but you could tell it was mainly nerves so I had a bit of sympathy for her. I then proceeded to nearly give birth with no pain relief on the ward, and flooded the place with my waters, so I can't really moan. I felt very sorry for the other two ladies in our bay that were very considerate, that night!