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AIBU?

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Have I been blocked??

14 replies

SnotRags · 04/02/2022 07:41

So, I had a weird dream last night about my dad, woke up crying and missing him. (He died years ago).

This morning I decided to send a message to my godmother on Facebook, she and her husband were my dads best friends and a huge part of our lives. I was chatting with her a few months ago, we were reminiscing and catching up, both very pleased to have found each other via Facebook. We added each other as friends.

Anyway! I went to message her this morning just to see how she is and although our previous conversation is there, there was a note at the bottom of the screen saying “this person is unavailable on messenger”.

Weird. So I went to her Facebook profile, she’s still active but I notice we’re no longer friends and I can only see 3 public posts on her wall. I can’t like, comment or do anything basically.

Has she blocked me? I can’t understand why!

YABU - she’s just limiting her social media
YANBU - yes she’s blocked you, you absolute wrong ‘un

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RozHuntleysStump · 04/02/2022 07:58

She’s blocked you. How strange. Can you phone her and ask her why ?

LagunaBubbles · 04/02/2022 08:02

Shes certainly defriended you, but if you were blocked you wouldn't see her when you search for her on FB I think.

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 04/02/2022 08:03

If you were blocked you couldn't see her profile at all.

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SnotRags · 04/02/2022 08:05

@RozHuntleysStump

She’s blocked you. How strange. Can you phone her and ask her why ?

No I don’t have any other way of contacting her. It’s so strange, I can’t understand it! She was sending me baby pictures of myself and everything a few months ago!

I’m trying to rack my brain thinking if I might have posted something to offend her but I don’t post on Facebook much and when I do it tends to be about my dog! (She’s a dog lover so I can’t imagine it being that!).

So weird. I can’t see her husbands profile at all anymore. Again our conversation is still there but when I try and click on his profile nothing happens. I’ve tried to search for him and he no longer appears.

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Theunamedcat · 04/02/2022 08:06

She has blocked you on messenger and removed you as a friend

wineandcheeseplease · 04/02/2022 08:07

You can block just on messenger so that's what she's done and removed you as a friend

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SnotRags · 04/02/2022 08:09

But why? I’m so confused! We were getting on so well. I’m starting to wonder if something untoward went on in the past that I’m unaware of!

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Fangdango · 04/02/2022 08:20

It might be Facebook, not you - she's spending too much time on it, did a general spring clean, going through some personal problems so limiting access. Is it practical to suggest a real face to face meet up? If she agrees to that the Facebook thing probably isn't personal and you may both get more out of the relationship this way. Hope you'll feel better soon - dreams can really throw us off balance

pixels123 · 04/02/2022 08:23

She might've been have had her account stolen. It happened to me recently and lots of other people I know.

kittensinthekitchen · 04/02/2022 08:29

Were you not in contact at all over Christmas?

NatashaBedwouldbenice · 04/02/2022 08:30

But why? I’m so confused! We were getting on so well. I’m starting to wonder if something untoward went on in the past that I’m unaware of!

That's an interesting thing to say. What do you feel in your gut?

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SnotRags · 04/02/2022 09:08

I’m not sure, when I first started talking to her again my mum seemed a bit off about it, asked if she was still really fat etc! Whereas before this she’d always said what great friends they were

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avobelly · 04/02/2022 09:19

Very similar story with an old teacher - we were both happy to reconnect, had some communication every now and then, until one day, I saw that I’d been unfriended. To add insult to injury, they’d remained Facebook friends with several of my other former classmates!

I’d mentioned it to a friend at the time - she thought the teacher might not fully understand how Facebook works. I thought she was just being kind and I’d mortally offended our teacher somehow, but lo and behold, a few months later they friended me again and seemed to be confused as to why I’d ever disappeared in the first place! So could be a genuine error. Maybe just add her back and see?

My mum is another example; she gets the technology but not the etiquette. She regularly deletes people on Facebook, and her line of thinking is “but I don’t really need to stay in touch with X so why would we be friends”. I don’t get it and I think it’s quite rude, but she doesn’t mean it maliciously. However it sounds like your godmother enjoyed keeping in touch with you, so I think it’s probably the first of the two!

PerseverancePays · 04/02/2022 09:19

Could you send her a nice card and say you would like to stay in touch but Facebook has shut you out? Someone might have 'tidied' up her account for her and she might not have realised. She might have been trying to stem the tide of pop ups and deleted you by mistake. Anything really. More likely to be technology than you.

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