I have name changed as some of the info could be outing. Might change a few details.
If there are any other parents who have been completely stressed by their DC’s illness and attendance please feel free to join.
DS has been hugely unlucky and has suffered a couple of injuries since April 2020, these have resulted in quite a few weeks off school but with the power of ‘home learning’ he’s had some contact with school teachers at least, although there has been lots of technical difficulties.
We have been in regular contact with school, he’s been marked as Authorised Absence and Pastoral Care have been supportive.
While all this has been going on we’re also having DS assessed via school/community paediatrics as we suspect possible ADHD/ADD/ASD, so this has been also going on in the background.
About 4 weeks ago DS complained about the right side of his neck feeling larger than the other. I tried to feel down each side but was met with a ‘OUCH’ each time. He had complained of an itchy throat a few days before so we put it down to a possible swollen lymph node. That lymph node is much bigger and is still swollen, so off to the Gp this week.
GP has requested a scan and told DS he might need a biopsy on this lump! So we’re now waiting for this appointment to come through. I’m worried, I’m hoping it’s just the GP being extra cautious, which they need to be, don’t they?? I feel so much for DS that it’s almost like ‘here we go again’ - I’ve told him not to Google, that it’s most likely an infected lymph node etc, but I know he will Google!
What’s adding to this stress is the thought that I’ve got to contact school AGAIN about DS and I know you might think I’m nuts but I’m seriously thinking about pulling him out of school to HE as it’s so stressful for everyone.
DS health is paramount but notifying school each and every time (and it’s been a lot) is adding HUGELY to the stress.
There’s multiple issues we’re dealing with right now and I won’t lie, I’m so fucking stressed, (sorry for swearing).
My main priority now is DS but the attendance %, lack of schooling etc etc is completely stressing me out, this shouldn’t be my main worry should it, I should be ABSOLUTELY 100% thinking about DS (which might be nothing) but instead I’m also having to worry about the school’s attendance record!
Is this right when it’s genuine?
I really can’t wait for to school years to be over if I’m honest, it’s been a journey.
In the meantime, if anyone has any positive advice regarding DS swelling in the neck, any GP’s out there who would have done the same, referred for a scan just to be safe, please post.