Our Godson has his birthday coming up. We are not involved godparents - we live far away and don’t really have any relationship with him, and IMO the bare minimum is that we buy him a birthday present (we haven’t in the past got him Christmas presents).
I do feel a bit guilty about our lack of relationship with him - there is more we could have / could do. I suppose I was feeling a bit guilty about it so ordered a present which was a couple of pounds more than what we would usually spend on family members (£18 instead of £15, so not masses!) DH has had a massive go at me saying I shouldn’t have spent that much, and that we shouldn’t even buy him presents anyway. He never sorts out any presents and also never acknowledges when I do sort them. He says that present buying is the wife’s job 
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We had an argument about this a couple of years ago and agreed we would be responsible for our own side of the family (and I would do any friends / Kids friends). But it still always falls to me because he forgets or the one time he did sort a present he bought a crappy unsuitable one. I think some conscious incompetence has come into play!
AIBU to think that because he doesn’t help with present buying, he doesn’t get to have an opinion on who we buy for?!
Also, curious to know what the division of labour is in your families as regards present buying?