How do you fit in all your relationships ?

[kermitswig]

I work FT and have 3 DC. I have parents who live near by. Several different groups of friends a DH and a bestie.

I seem to spend all my time trying to see all these different groups and meeting their expectations in terms of doing things with them/spending time with them. Its full on. How do others manage it ?

I also work FT and have one DD. I live with my OH and we have one routine child free night a fortnight when my mum takes her.

My best friend is my next priority after DD, parents and OH (feels weird to rank them but there you go!). We'd do anything for each other and are in contact daily, see each other often and she's my number one fun person to do things with.

As for a wider circle, we tend to plan our outings around events. Big birthdays, concerts, theatre trips. We pick things on rigid dates and stick to them. If we don't have anything in the diary for a prolonged period then we plan a dinner out.

It is hard going but its worth it as all my relationships are very important to me and I think it also takes the pressure off my OH for being my only company! (He is the same and because we plan ahead, we can make sure we don't clash childcare wise)