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AIBU?

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To not move?

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Bussinbussin · 03/02/2022 06:12

Please help me settle a dispute with my son (almost 18) who says I'm a big meanie.

Earlier, I was in a video meeting for work (I'm not in UK time zone). My desk is at my front window, overlooking my car parked on the road.

There was a bit of a commotion in the street. A few people were milling around a car which was stopped in the road, parallel to mine. It was blocking traffic. It was stopped incredibly close to mine so I thought he might've sideswiped it. I'm still in the meeting but my son went out to investigate.

After a bit of chatting and gesticulating my son comes back in and tells me the fellow has a flat tyre. The man in the car wanted me to move my car up to the next free parking spot, 2 spaces ahead, so the man could take my spot. I'm on video, mic on mute and trying to look interested in work while muttering to my son out of the corner of my mouth! I say no way, I'm busy and the guy can move his own car all of 10-15 metres to the empty spot, you can roll forward that far on a flat.

He goes out. More gesticulating. They're all glaring at me through the window.

YABU - I should've excused myself from work and moved my car.
YANBU - the guy was being precious and could have driven forward a few feet to get off the road.

OP posts:

girlmom21 · 03/02/2022 17:31

If someone walked into my meeting and said "someone's got a flat tyre (or other issue) outside - would you mind moving your car?" and the person didn't move we'd all tell them to go and move it and would think they were an arse if they didn't.

I work in the motor industry though so the safety of the driver is paramount to us so maybe it's different.

TrashyPanda · 03/02/2022 17:39

Are you suggesting that in a physical office setting you've never had to leave a meeting for some reason?

Why do you think it is commonplace to walk out of meetings?

I’ve personally never walked out of a meeting in over 35 years of work.

OP - of course you were perfectly reasonable. Especially as it would be much easier for him to push the car into the free space.

girlmom21 · 03/02/2022 17:41

Why do you think it is commonplace to walk out of meetings?

I’ve personally never walked out of a meeting in over 35 years of work.

Not even for a wee?

I tend to find people suddenly urgently need my support or assistance when I'm in meetings

IglesiasPiggl · 03/02/2022 17:48

Personally I would have gone out and moved my car if I was just on a call with my usual colleagues. If it was a client call or a live broadcast with an audience then that's different.

SpilltheTea · 03/02/2022 17:56

He could have moved, it was hardly far away. Silly little man.

Throckmorton · 03/02/2022 18:49

I've never walked out of a meeting either - unless it's an emergency it would be really rude to do so

Tiramysu · 03/02/2022 18:51

Are you suggesting that in a physical office setting you've never had to leave a meeting for some reason? once when I was about to throw up

Essentialgarage · 03/02/2022 18:53

@girlmom21

I work in the motor industry though so the safety of the driver is paramount to us so maybe it's different.

As do I, and there is no reason he couldn't drive that small distance. The tyre didn't go from being fine to completely off whilst it was stationary so even if it was removed the car had already driven some distance on the rim, so a few more rotations would not make the difference.

ChoiceMummy · 03/02/2022 19:59

@girlmom21

I work in the motor industry though so the safety of the driver is paramount to us so maybe it's different.

Exactly what I'd be thinking of my employees doing so.

ilovemybeachhut · 03/02/2022 20:05

He made a drama over nothing it would seem.

TrashyPanda · 03/02/2022 22:44

@girlmom21

Why do you think it is commonplace to walk out of meetings?

I’ve personally never walked out of a meeting in over 35 years of work.

Not even for a wee?

I tend to find people suddenly urgently need my support or assistance when I'm in meetings

Nope. If it’s going to be a long meeting, I go beforehand.

I seemed to get the folk who waited till I was eating my lunch to say “I know you’re on your lunch, but…”

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