Do you ever find you just cant cope

[velvet24]

I do most of the time but every so often I think, I cant do this meal planning, food shopping , cooking, always having to think ahead, sometimes I just want to do whatever I like and report to no one!! I always dream of my own little cottage by the sea I could escape to if I wanted to, just me , books and wine and talk to no one, answer no ones questions or have any demands on me.

I often feel the same I find juggling housework hard with working fulltime. I always feel like I'm not doing enough but I get tired so dont always want to have to be 'doing'. I think I have a bit of SAD right now but life just seems to be a massive treadmill/hamsterwheel.

Absolutely. When I’m in my good times I try to make things easier for next time. Decluttering, subscribe and save on Amazon, etc.

Often

5000 x a day at the moment. Glad it’s not just me! 💐

Hell yes, me too! Cottage, books, wine, knitting, silence. I love the idea (would probably last 5 minutes in real life before going mad with boredom!)

Yes you’re not alone
I find life totally overwhelming sometimes

Pp had a good idea- when you have a good day do a thing or two to help you out another day, like freeze and extra meal or go paperless on bank statements, anything that will gradually cut down the load. Otherwise delegation is also good if possible and lowering standards. I hardly iron now

'Absolutely. When I’m in my good times I try to make things easier for next time.'

Exactly this ^
When I'm feeling energised I will batch cook/bake where ever possible and freeze supplies to use when I cant be bothered! I also try to keep some easy go to dinners in i can throw together quickly. I also sometimes have a kfc or fish & chips etc for a treat when i just don't want to cook! I have young dc and it is exhausting so i will cut corners where ever possible!

Usually it's day by day, task by task, sometimes I try to plan ahead, other times it's on the fly, so to speak

Always. Sometimes I want to lie down and sleep on a park bench on my lunch break.
I'm a LP and can't imagine anyone making me a cup of tea or tidying up.

Yeah I feel like that and then I just cope.

Coping is the bar I aim for.

Yes, this morning when DD refused to go to school because she had stomach ache. She's had stomach ache for over 3 weeks, originally the GP said it was Vit D deficiency but I took her back today and they've done more bloods. The doc I saw today (different to last time) said her results weren't that low so ordered more bloods.

She point blank refused to go so she stayed home, but she did login to Google Classroom and did whatever work was on there.

I am dreading another morning of arguing about her going. She's 11 and I really don't know how I can make her go when she's refusing like that. We were arguing for an hour this morning.

Work is stressful, DH is suffering with depression, we might have to put our Ddog down this week and I've had enough. I just want to run away and hide.

To varying extents we are all winging it. I have moments of pure anxiety but I just ride the wave. One thing I try to tell myself is that 'It's ok' - as long as I'm still standing I can manage another day.

Yes. And then I just have to get on with it. Most of the time I wish I could just go home and let my parents deal with my responsibilities. However they're no longer around and I'm at the top of the tree. Sucks

I feel like this a lot of the time. Same escape plan as well.

It's interesting how whenever a thread like this is posted (and it really is quite a lot!) the fantasy is always the same - remote cottage, books, wine, silence. It's so common it should have a name. Maybe it's the female version of a mid-life crisis 😂

I am with you OP.

I constantly try and organise myself out of the hole. If I prep enough meals, declutter enough stuff, create enough systems, then it won't go to shit. It always does!

I am really lucky that my work means a night away in a hotel every so often.

I order room service, take out my kindle and just enjoy the sound of silence.

The joy of a few hours without hearing my name and the inevitable need which will follow.

The feeling of going to sleep, knowing that I will wake up when I have had enough sleep rather than because someone needs me.

The pleasure of being able to have a shower, moisturise, dry my hair without anyone else in the bathroom.

Then I look back at this list and realise how sad it is that these things feel like a total luxury

Glad its not just me, i just cant cope today, the thought of another day doing it all over is a bit overwhelming atm, I have to be the strong one for everyone else

Oh definitely!

Yea sometimes. I take antidepressants as well and I found they help me with those feelings of despair and of wanting to run off somewhere quiet. Cake helps too but isn't so good for my waistline.

I learned about the Japanese art of tree bathing when I listened to a mindfulness talk last month. Basically you find a place with trees and sit amongst them and just look around. Apparently half an hour can have benefits for around a week.

I think i will try it x