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AIBU?

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To never ever want a long term Male partner again?

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Trippingslippingx1 · 02/02/2022 15:01

I feel I have reacted to the horrific news once again this morning - of the football player who assaulted his girlfriend.

Every morning I seem to wake up - turn on the news either locally or nationally and there is yet another story of a heterosexual man who has committed a crime against a woman.

And these are just the ones reported.

I then scroll through Mumsnet and see various reports of abusive relationships.
I then hear my friends talk about their partners in a similar vain. Or friends of friends who know of yet another horror story.

No woman would ever willingly walk into a situation with a man who they felt was abusive, so how and why on earth does this seem to happen so often and so frequently? It transcends all nationalities, cultures and class. Has this always been the case or are woman reporting it more often?

I have certainly been in the situation before where a man has presented as very nice in the beginning - for months even, and the one day they just seem to change. Thankfully it has always been before getting married or having children - but I could have easily not been as lucky.

I do date and see Men so it is not as if I have completely shut this down but honestly, the older I get the more I do wonder why I am even bothering. I have had some lovely expierences with Men, so I guess I am not a hardened woman as yet.

I also seem to think that there IS still alot of victim blaming that happens to woman from both men and woman when they fall victim to it.

I do not know what I have been so triggered by todays news, well I do - it is horrific - but I honestly just feel like no woman is safe in the world we currently live in no matter how hard they vet

AIBU to be thinking this way? And does anyone feel the same? Maybe I am just sick of it and need to spend time never listening to the news.

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