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DD year 6

27 replies

KissKissButtCheek · 01/02/2022 23:16

Perfectly willing to be told IABU but not sure how I feel
DD announced this evening that she got to play lego in school today which she loved.

I asked oh how come you don't usually have lego in class. She said Mrs A pulled her and two others out of class after lunch to play lego and work on their communication.

Now I've not got a problem with this, I'm aware that DD can be shy and is not as forthright as some of the other children in her class, but I didn't think it was an issue?
Does the school doing this mean there is an issue, or just a "little" something they are helping her to work on.

I've been told nothing about this and have stopped myself from messaging her teacher as overall I don't think it's a bad thing, but now I feel like she's been singled out as having a problem/issue.

I know for a fact another girl in her class is so painfully shy, that in all the years of friendship I have actually only hear her speak once!

I'm being a bit sensitive about this aren't I?!

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Coffeeisnecessary · 01/02/2022 23:20

Our school does this too, and I'll admit I was a bit sad to find out the reasons they put kids into the lego club, my DS was in it and I just thought it was a nice fun thing to do! I didn't realise he had issues with communication or teamwork, only found out that was what it was talking in a general way with a TA at the school about it. I wish the school had mentioned the issue at parents evening but suppose I should be grateful they are trying to help!

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KissKissButtCheek · 01/02/2022 23:27

I know what you mean. We recently had DD's parents consultation and nothing was mentioned about this at all. Everything was really positive and said how well she works etc and always make an effort in group work and how her confidence was coming up in leaps and bounds.
I feel sad that she's now doing this, but ok about it as it'll help.

It just feels off that school haven't said anything, or maybe they don't need to as its "nothing" really

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PastMyBestBeforeDate · 01/02/2022 23:29

It's fine. It'll be a nurture thing to help her with the scary transition to Y7. Don't worry or be upset.

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KissKissButtCheek · 01/02/2022 23:30

Thank you @PastMyBestBeforeDate 😊

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BluebellsGreenbells · 01/02/2022 23:33

They don’t just play with Lego, they have to work as a team and communicate to make whatever the task is, it helps build confidence as they achieve the goals together.

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KissKissButtCheek · 01/02/2022 23:36

Thank you, that makes sense!

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Heartofglass12345 · 01/02/2022 23:44

I'm surprised they didn't tell you they were doing it. Hopefully it's helping her though Smile did she enjoy it?

11stonesomething · 01/02/2022 23:48

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EndersGame · 01/02/2022 23:53

Probably doing this with all the kids over a period of time. Its a way of having them focus on something while discussing it with another child, while adult observes. Perfectly okay and nothing to panic over.

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KissKissButtCheek · 02/02/2022 00:09

@Heartofglass12345 I think that' what had thrown me more than anything tbh with you
@11stonesomething I'm assuming it's for 3 of the children who were taken out of class of today. I have to say the one child who is there I was very surprised at, but not knowing the exact reason this is being done, its hard to say
@EndersGame - ah OK, is the adult observing anything in particular or just a general observation?

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whatsagoodusername · 02/02/2022 07:27

My DS has Lego therapy at school (has ASD, it's in his EHCP) to practice communication skills. It requires three kids: one to build, one to find, one to instruct. Each had a specific role to play, which has a specific communication goal, and they take turns.

When this began, DS was the only child in school who had mandated Lego therapy. The school pulled other kids in to do it with him. Some were kids he just got on well with, some were kids the school felt would benefit from communication support. It did vary a bit every week.

It's entirely possible that Lego therapy has been set up to specifically benefit another child, and your child has been pulled in to "help" and school thought it would benefit her, rather than feeling there's a big problem that needs targeting. Or just that the other child is comfortable with yours, so yours has been brought in to make the child feel easier in the setting.

It's fun anyway, and they learn good communication skills! If she's doing it every week, maybe ask about it (what goal they have in mind for her), but I wouldn't worry about it.

EndersGame · 03/02/2022 02:59

As has been said, the game is used to get the kids working together and measure how they cooperate and communicate, follow instructions, understand verbal commands. All part of normal child development.

Tickledtrout · 03/02/2022 03:19

You should drop the school an email and ask what it's all about OP.
There are a few Lego based, small group interventions; the most established one is Lego Therapy to support children with social communication skills but there are others to support social and emotional development. The aim is to support skill development rather than just observe the children.
Yes school should have discussed with you beforehand.

Mumofsend · 03/02/2022 05:16

It sounds like the sort of thing one of the children may have as part of a support plan and then they've picked a couple of others to partake who can also benefit to do it too.

dandydear · 03/02/2022 05:51

All the kids in DD and DS kids donLego therapy at some point with the SENCO, it's good for everyone.

Lamby1234 · 03/02/2022 06:16

At our school we do lego therapy. One child is having it for specific reasons and that child gets to choose 2 others to go with them, it's seen as a bit of a treat from the children who are chosen.

HelenaJustina · 03/02/2022 06:22

We can’t run Lego Therapy at the moment due to staffing pressures. But the SENCo has got a list a mile long of children who would benefit.

It’s great that in your DD’s school they are concentrating on Year 6 pupils. Their last un-disrupted year of education was Year 3. It’s a massive jump to secondary, I know it’s tempting to overthink these but I’d be so glad they were identifying children who need a bit of extra support and then doing something about it.

Zonder · 03/02/2022 06:25

is the adult observing anything in particular or just a general observation?
They will be facilitating rather than observing. Giving an opportunity for certain skills to be worked on or for some things to be talked about.

It is a really positive thing. All kinds of children will be included at different times and it doesn't mean they think your child has communication problems.

DSGR · 03/02/2022 06:29

My DS had Lego therapy and we weren’t told about it. I felt the same as you but friends working at the school told me dozens and dozens of children there have it at some point in primary. It’s seen as a really good thing

TheWayTheLightFalls · 03/02/2022 06:34

I wouldn’t email the school. Either they’ve picked up that she needs it/might need it, or she’s helping support another child in a fun way. Both ok, surely?

My four year old repeatedly comes out of nursery distraught because she wasn’t in the “special group” again that day. It’s a hard balance to get right.

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KissKissButtCheek · 03/02/2022 06:36

Thanks all
I sent a message to her teacher y'day stating i'm pleased she's doing it, and could I ask what the goal was for DD doing this.

He feels she will benefit from learning to lead group activities rather than taking instructions. DD is very much a sit back and take everything in type of person, so yeah this is a very good thing! She's happy so I'm happy 😊

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xxKatie9806xx · 03/02/2022 06:38

I work in a school and I imagine the intervention is for the painfully shy pupil you mentioned and they added a few more so that pupil didn’t feel singled out. Your dd was chosen as she’s also a bit shy and they think she would get something from it.

SuPerDoPer · 03/02/2022 06:42

My Dd did something like this (not lego) as part of a small group. I was told that she was one of the ones chosen to help support the child who really needed the intervention although she didn't know this. She benefited loads from doing something more therapeutic for an hour a week even if it wasn't aimed at her.

Mumofsend · 03/02/2022 07:04

@TheWayTheLightFalls

I wouldn’t email the school. Either they’ve picked up that she needs it/might need it, or she’s helping support another child in a fun way. Both ok, surely?

My four year old repeatedly comes out of nursery distraught because she wasn’t in the “special group” again that day. It’s a hard balance to get right.

Perhaps worth a conversation with her that it isn't a special group and they just need a bit of extra help?
Confrontayshunme · 03/02/2022 07:11

My DD is often pulled from Reception to do play therapy with other children because she is polite and chatty with most children and adults. I only know because I work across the hall and our pastoral support told me. I wouldn't worry as any 1:1 or small group intervention will benefit all children involved.