An adult doesn’t spread rumours about a child

[JimminieCricket]

So a parent (that I do trust) told me that another parent (I have never met) had been told by her child that my DS was apparently disruptive in all his various classes. Followed by a tinkly laugh and comment ‘well I just said to my DC some kids just aren’t wired the same are they’.

Turns out it’s complete and utter codswallop. I spoke to the school who did a sweep of DS’s teachers and there was not one agreement with the statement made by this parent. Apparently DS works hard, is polite and about as far from disruptive as you can be.

Obviously I assume she has heard it from her kid but still, repeating this around the school could cause quite a lot of trouble as I don’t know which other parents she’s talking to and saying this, and it’s not fair on my child who seems to be subject of such rubbish. What would you do?

Of course I would check! If my child is being disruptive I would want to know so he knows that’s unacceptable. He’s only 10 so it’s not like I am going into school trying to protect a 16 year old

Maybe tell the teachers which parent is saying stuff and ask them to talk to them.

Some adults never actually reach adulthood maturity wise. They remain a teenager forever. God help their kids.

@ElevenSmiles

The trusted parent sounds like a shit stirrer.

Yep i agree

I was once told my child had done something by a parent, when I spoke to the teacher about it they were visibly exasperated (although they didn't say anything unprofessional) and told me it was absolutely nothing and accidental.

Basically the parent was an undermining bully.

Could it be possible that she is trying to spread rumours about the other mother???

But wouldn't you already know if your child was being disruptive in school? Do you not think his teachers would have approached you to discuss it before you heard it fourth hand via two parents and a child?

Why are you not questioning the motivations of your shit stirring ‘trusted’ friend? I think that’s the real issue here.

Yes increasingly unhappy with the ‘messenger’ too

Tell the messenger you're going to confront the other parent and see her reaction