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AIBU to think this is just plain rude?!

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Freddie15VES · 01/02/2022 18:12

So I was out today with my little boy who is currently teething very very badly. So I thought although we had barely any sleep last night we’d go to M&S and try and have an okay day.

Whilst in there I was waiting in line at the cafe and an elderly couple were starting to move infront of me - I didn’t say anything just quietly waited to be served. If they wanted to push in I was too tired to even care. But then the lady asked me if I was in the queue which I replied yes politely, nothing funny. They then (both of them) proceeded to have a go at me, telling me I shouldn’t be stood where I was if I was waiting to be served etc they were so bloody rude. At first I just kind of stood there like am I actually being bollocked for not standing where someone thinks I should be?! I left it, but they continued to just be extremely rude and their attitude was awful. I ended up (probably wrongly) telling them they were both ‘fucking rude’ and put our lunch down and walked off…

I’m now having major anxiety replaying the whole thing in my head and now feeling like I’m the one in the wrong here…and I probably over reacted due to major lack of sleep but I also think they massively overreacted!!!

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Tiramysu · 01/02/2022 18:13

Where were you stood?

Freddie15VES · 01/02/2022 18:17

@Tiramysu where everyone else was waiting…maybe a few feet back from the person infront of me

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Tiramysu · 01/02/2022 18:19

They need to chill once you said yes you were in the line. Don't know how they would cope at a bus stop.

gettingolderandgrumpy · 01/02/2022 18:19

Bit odd unless your stood miles away from the queue so your not sure if queuing or just stood there . Mind you I’d just say are you queuing ? I’d not tell you off I’m not sure why they did it’s not a big deal.

Tiramysu · 01/02/2022 18:20

And you don't have to be nice to people if they aren't being nice to you

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 01/02/2022 18:21

From what youve said it was them not you. Dont give them any more headspace and try and get some sleep. Some people just look for any possible confrontation, and theres this weird british phenomenon of shutting perfectly reasonable requests or comments down as rudeness.

Ameanstreakamilewide · 01/02/2022 18:21

It might be my age, but I have a zero tolerance policy for shit like this now.

I would have told the pair of them to fuck off.

TooMuchToblerone · 01/02/2022 18:25

I know what you mean. I've been in similar situations and got cross, then wished I'd kept the moral high ground. They were in the wrong though.
They were probably embarrassed at being called out for queue jumping and instead of apologising went on the offensive. Bet life's fun in their house if neither can ever be in the wrong!

Freddie15VES · 01/02/2022 18:25

I’m still sat here like what the fuck actually was that. Like why was it such a huge deal haha urgh. I’m so sleep deprived I know it’s just going to continue playing on my mind!

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Cocomarine · 01/02/2022 18:25

I think a few feet back back is far enough back that they didn’t actually know they were pushing in. Because you did think they were pushing in (and you were tired)? there may have been an unintended edge to your “yes” - especially if it was just a yes, not a “yes but you’re alright, I was stood back a bit” type comment. I expect they were defensive as possibly embarrassed to have cut in.

Usually not the best manners to throw in “fucking” 🤣 but then can’t tell from your post just how rude they were.

Storm in a café tea cup though.

Probably not going to do you any good giving it any more headspace with this thread, tbh.

Good luck with the teething Flowers

GinAndTopic · 01/02/2022 18:27

Once I spied a dithering older lady ahead of me on the street so slowed down so she could decide where she was going, then just as I was passing her she changed her mind and turned into the shop, and me! SHE had a go at ME! Said I should not overtake on that side 🤣 Luckily I tend to find things like that hilarious and just laughed at her!

GinAndTopic · 01/02/2022 18:29

Don't know if I should clarify, we were both walking?!

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