Is this normal

[Surgarblossom]

I invited a friend over on Saturday as we haven't met up for nearly 2 years due to Covid.

Whilst she was here she had a full English Breakfast, evening meal with dessert, copious amounts of tea / cold drinks and snacks. Not once did she say thank you, not when i served the meals, not when she had finish eating, not when she left and not when she text to say she had arrived home safely.

AIBU to be annoyed that I didn't receive a " thank you" not even once or is this normal and am I just being precious?

Shes rude plain and simple and would not be invited round again ever.

Is there a chance she holds resentment towards you? For example, if she lives alone and you have a family? That during Covid she kept hinting that she'd like to see you but you put her off a few times?
So you 'owed' her this visit.
That's the only reason I can think of.
The other one is that psychologically she treats you as her mother. She is the child and you 'provide' for her. Do either of those roles seem to fit?

So every time you put a plate in front of her or passed a cup directly into her hands she either said nothing and stared at you or ignored you or acted as if it hadn’t happened?

I’d put that more in the “totally weird” than the “rude” bucket, and as she’s your friend you’re best placed over anyone to be able to tell whether she’s had some kind of complete personality change over lockdown.

Not a great friend!

@irene9

Is there a chance she holds resentment towards you? For example, if she lives alone and you have a family? That during Covid she kept hinting that she'd like to see you but you put her off a few times? So you 'owed' her this visit. That's the only reason I can think of. The other one is that psychologically she treats you as her mother. She is the child and you 'provide' for her. Do either of those roles seem to fit?

Yes, she does live alone and longs for a family ( which I have)

I have a friend exactly the same. The words thank you just don't appear in her vocabulary. Gives me the rage

It's so easy to say thank you, I couldn't not say it.

She sounds so rude, I wouldn't be in a hurry to invite her again.

I'd text her back " Thankyou for coming, I had a lovely time".

Rude.

In my husbands language they have an a standard expression (and the host says a stock response in return) they do not use the explicit word for thank you (if translated) but it is a lovely way to say thanks.

Oh and I’ve learnt it so not to be rude when dining with his side.

Hmm... sounds odd