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To think there are a lot of very boastful MNers

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BoastfulMNers · 01/02/2022 09:28

Not any one thread but there are so many threads where MNers boast about their beauty in their youth.

A lot of the time it’s done in a really stealth-boast sort of way as in ‘oh I was SO beautiful but didn’t appreciate it’ and to ‘boost’ someone lacking confidence ‘well I’m so sad I’m no longer as attractive, you’re lucky you’ve never known what it’s like.’

Then also lots of threads about no friends and struggling to fit in.

Are they linked? Grin

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MrsRobinsonsHandprints · 01/02/2022 09:30

There are also a lot of people that read far too much into posts on an anonymous forum

ilovesooty · 01/02/2022 09:31

Why did you name change to make this observation?

AuntieMarys · 01/02/2022 09:32

Maybe they're just stating a fact?

KedgeIsland · 01/02/2022 09:33

Well, it’s an anonymous forum. I could say I’d spent my 20s as a catwalk model, and still look like Erin O’Connor aged 49, but I might in fact be a lonely, tubby lorry driver eating an egg sandwich in a layby.

DropYourSword · 01/02/2022 09:34

A lot of the time it’s done in a really stealth-boast sort of way as in ‘oh I was SO beautiful but didn’t appreciate it’

I think this is an entirely reasonable thing to say, because it's usually meant in relation to how they feel about their appearance now. I never used to think I was slim or good looking as a 20 year old, but in comparison to how I am now I definitely looked better then. I didn't appreciate myself at my best back then either!

and to ‘boost’ someone lacking confidence ‘well I’m so sad I’m no longer as attractive, you’re lucky you’ve never known what it’s like.’

I've never seen anyone say this or even anything vaguely resembling it on mumsnet

3scape · 01/02/2022 09:36

I'm sure one of the reasons I have no friends is because I'm not particularly attractive, have a slight speech impediment and now I am also fat.

But at least the endless CF requests to do other people's school runs have stopped now I'm also grey haired.

IncompleteSenten · 01/02/2022 09:36

That's your take away?

I'd see it as really sad that so many women went through their youth thinking they were ugly, fat, etc and only when looking back can they see actually, they were not! And that they can look at themselves positively.

We don't have to put ourselves down all our lives.

Quirrelsotherface · 01/02/2022 09:42

But there's multiple threads about billions of other subjects too, so it's baffling that you've picked this one. I think it says more about that honking great french fry on your shoulder to be honest.

SummerHouse · 01/02/2022 09:47

Well I never boast. I feel sorry for people who do. I am extremely self aware and don't feel the need to gain the approval / jealousy of others. In fact, I boast so little that sometimes I do the opposite and deliberately undersell myself. If not boasting was an Olympic sport, I would be a gold medalist. I am honestly a champion at not boasting. 😂

Cofifeefee · 01/02/2022 09:52

I don't notice that type of boasting but on threads with an OP complaining about her useless husband, I do think wtf when a poster jumps on to say how she is lying in bed with breakfast made by her DH while he has done two loads of laundry, is out at the park with the kids and the dog and will return home with a takeaway for them all - way to kick an OP when she's down!

Worldwide2 · 01/02/2022 09:53

@Kedgeisland 🤣🤣 this made me crack up lol

Elaine2468 · 01/02/2022 09:55

Thing is though I actually was pretty and slim in my 20's but I had no confidence and no idea I would regret not being happy in my own skin.
This isn't something I could ever say in "real life." I wouldn't want people to think I was being big headed, or boasting. On here though, it's not the same is it. No one knows me. Or how I look (either then or now.) Maybe that's part of it? Not anything mean. And they may not say things like that to their friends offline?

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BoastfulMNers · 01/02/2022 10:03

@ilovesooty

Why did you name change to make this observation?
Always do.
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PurpleCarpets · 01/02/2022 10:04

I can't see what they would get out of boasting on an anonymous forum. Lots of people are very attractive in youth and then lose it. Whether user746894 was one of them, or user027835 or mumofkids really doesn't make a lot of difference!

Original poster
BoastfulMNers · 01/02/2022 10:04

Fantasy life I suppose, @PurpleCarpets

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Polkmn · 01/02/2022 10:30

As I am now approaching middle age, I wish I'd appreciated my beauty when I was younger. I always lacked self-esteem and thought I looked like an ogre, was fat, no fashion sense, etc. It's only looking back now at old photos do I realise that even without makeup, I was pretty, had a great figure, and was slim and sporty. Maybe these posters feel the same, and it's that yearning for youth and what they didn't see years ago that makes them post these things. Whatever the reason you are being unpleasant with your criticisms.

IncompleteSenten · 01/02/2022 11:51

What is wrong with saying something positive about yourself?

Flatandhappy · 01/02/2022 12:22

Maybe they are just telling the truth. It is so tedious on MN that you can’t say anything nice about your life without being pounced on by people who think that because their lives are shit anyone who is doing better is boasting.

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