Left partner after trying again AIBU

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Things have come to ahead with my partner

A few weeks ago I sent him a picture and he sent it back with a laughing face but at the top there was an arrow button back to plenty of fish.

When I questioned him excuses were made and I didn’t believe him but swept things under the carpet as I had things going on.

Things now come to a head. I’ve told him I can’t be with someone who does things like this and it is unacceptable.

He was not sticking to his promises and going to the pub rather then here when I said so I ended up telling him to stay in the pub and not bother coming here.

My question is AIBU by ending it for good. He does have his good points but these are not enough to solidify a future and now I can’t trust him and have felt hurt by his drinking and now denial of searching for another woman/women on pof.

I’ve decided I don’t want to live my life like this. We have been together over 3 years and had a few break ups but this time I’m at the end of the line.
It is very hard to move on when you have been with someone a long time but it simply isn’t working.

Thanks for listening I need support to help me move on.

So sorry you're going through this 💐
I do think it would be best to end it for good, I was with a partner for 10 years and at least once a month we'd have an argument and it would be over and we kept trying again but I have to say I am so much happier now. It'll be difficult for a while but you will be happier in the long run ❤️

You can end a relationship for any minor or major reason. Your on/off relationship, his behaviour and your doubts about the future are all reason enough. A crap relationship is not better than being single. Congratulate yourself on having clear boundaries and look forward to a happier future. 💐

Stick to your boundaries OP. This one is one to throw back in the sea.

Thanks all. It’s just hard but the love I had for him he’s killed it off unfortunately I don’t feel anything and expect better.

SnowWhitesSM

Yes.. a dead fish

I think I remember your previous thread.
Yes. Sounds like like there’s nothing left now and it shouldn’t this tiring to be with someone you love.

I remember. It was a bit more than you said though, lots of sulking and denial and gas lighting.

You're better off without him.

It’s the lie about pof .. we have done some research and found out that the back button with plenty of fish next to it means he has been on the app. No trust going forward it’s now as dead as a dodo to me.

I remember your past thread about POF and I can’t believe you are giving this stain the airtime. LEAVE HIM IN THE BIN

The actual breaking up bit can be really tough, even if you know it is over.

I hear you, OP.

You're better off without him.

Fuck this arsehole. Best decision you've ever made to get rid of him.

OP you've been through the hard bit, you've now reached your limit, and not being able to trust your partner in life is a massive deal, so personally I think ending it for good this time is definitely the right thing to do. Wasting your life trying to make a relationship with this particular man, is clearly a waste of time, and let's face it, none of us know how much time we'll get, so get rid of him, and get on with your life, you'll be glad you did. Good luck for the future!

Thank you and the reason why I didn’t walk away a few weeks ago is because I had issues at home and also a potential job assessment which I did end up having .. so have not been focusing on him but on my life. I’ve barely seen him in between and when I did I just said I can’t trust you. It is still hard.

Good on you, OP. Move on and up.