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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To run away

15 replies

Trebbley · 31/01/2022 21:03

They say you can't run away from things, but AIBU to think maybe you can?

I want to move 100 miles away, buy a new house in the country, find a new job, and just start again.

If you could, would you?

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Georgeskitchen · 31/01/2022 21:10

Yes definitely!!

oldestmumaintheworld · 31/01/2022 21:13

I wouldn't, but that's because my life is the way I like it. However, aged 22 I did exactly that. Went to America and left everything behind. No regrets.

TheFishWillSeeYouNow · 31/01/2022 21:13

I did once run away - move to a new city for a job. Now I have such a good network of people here, I wouldn't move for anything. People are all we have!

3scape · 31/01/2022 21:18

Yes.

Thevoiceofreason2021 · 31/01/2022 21:21

Depends why you are moving. If it’s “doing a geographical “ to avoid dealing with mental health or addiction issues - then no, don’t do it. YouLl take your problems with you and may well find yourself in a foreign country , on your own, in crisis. If your doing it for other reasons, then yes, go for it. But be warned - it is very difficult in some countries to establish professional careers if you are not a native and fluent speaker of the local language. There always jobs available but maybe not in your given field or you may need to re sit exams.

MamaFirst · 31/01/2022 21:22

Yes, did it! Do it!

Opus17 · 31/01/2022 21:24

I'd never run away from my son, so no. But with no kids, why not??

WildPoinsettia · 31/01/2022 21:25

@Trebbley

They say you can't run away from things, but AIBU to think maybe you can?

I want to move 100 miles away, buy a new house in the country, find a new job, and just start again.

If you could, would you?

I did! There's very few decisions that can't be changed if it turns out to be a mistake. It's worked out ok for me.

Daftasabroom · 31/01/2022 21:26

Been there done it.

It didn't work, probably made things worse.

Cryalot2 · 31/01/2022 21:27

Yes I think and have thought of it often.

Mrbob · 31/01/2022 21:53

I did but it was a lot further than 100 miles. It wasn’t just running away though it was running too as well. And I didn’t think it would fix all my problems (it did in fact fix many of them just by changing my mindset)
I think it depends what you are running away from really.

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Trebbley · 31/01/2022 22:24

Running away from ghosts, mainly, I suppose.

No kids, lovely DH, I just feel like I can barely breathe here, as though I can't be myself. Neither of us have any roots/family.

I'm very risk adverse usually, but I feel a huge urge to just stick a pin in a map and move there (UK! I'm not brave enough to move abroad...).

But I don't want to feel worse. I'm thinking it'd be a fresh start. It's reassuring to hear from those who did it and were glad they did!

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JaceLancs · 31/01/2022 22:55

I ran away (300+ miles) to escape being stalked by an Ex
No regrets at all

Suzanne999 · 31/01/2022 22:57

Yes, I did. Am so glad I did.

ComtesseDeSpair · 31/01/2022 23:08

I think if you’re running away from something specific to the location you’re in which is making you unhappy, give it a go. It isn’t irreversible.

If you’re just unhappy in a nebulous way and think “something new” is the way to solve that, it’s probably worth exploring with therapy first - because wherever you go, there you are.

I moved 350 miles away and to a different lifestyle almost ten years ago. I realised that it wasn’t a tilt what I wanted several years later and came back to London. I don’t regret the move or the return: nothing ventured, nothing gained.

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